Why can't I cope with them ??

[IllegallyBrunette]

My kids I mean.

They are driving me demented, and I can't stand it anymore.

I just want to sit in a room all on my own and never come out again.

What course are you doing IllegallyBrunette.Im starting college in three weeks and cant wait.Im hoping it will improve my social life.I am nervous as havent been working for a while and have low confidence thanks to my ex.Im sure you will love it once you start.

I was signed up to do a childcare diploma.

However I have just managed to find a part time dental nursing course which is something I have been trying to find for ages. It says it is open to people already employed in that indusry or the unemployed so I should be able to get a place.

Which course are you doing Bluebell ??

That is so spookily similar.I am doing the cache diploma in childcare.I then plan to do an early years degree through the open university and possibly a pcge at the end.Its going to take quite a long time but i would love to get into teaching.

I thought about dental nursing as well i did actually apply for that as well.But i have to think long term and if im going to be on my own i need something that will fit with school hols.

Yes that was one of my reasons for applying for childcare, but tbh I am quite lucky in that my mum is always more than willing to have my kids, and retires in about 18mths and so she has already said that she'd be happy to have them in hols etc.

Just trying to print off the application form for the dental nursing but my printer doesn't want to play

I always find it really hard to cope after having a break from the kids. I've always wondered if the responsibility/work of having them hits you like a sledge hammer after you've been away whilst the rest of the time you are used to it and immune to 95% of the stress & work!

I think perhaps they are acting up as "punishment" for you being away too. Again probably subconciously

See things arent so bad i never get a break away from my kids.I love them to bits but sometimes i would just love some me time.My ex and family never help out.

Thats why i want to go to college so bad i want to gain some independence and i know the boys will love going to nursery.I am just a bit worried about money but no one wanted to employ me.

I think you may be right cargirl.

Bluebell, no one wanted to employ me either, have been job hunting for 2 years and got nowhere.

If I do this dental course, it is only 1 day a week so I could do my maths and english aswell.

Are you really sure about dental nursing then?
Im sure whatever you decide to do you will enjoy it as it will change the monotony of being at home.

That sounds good.Gosh i dont think you will have a problem getting employed after doing all that.

That is the only downside to the childcare course.Its four days two at college and two on placement.I was hoping to get a part time christmas job but i couldnt put the kids in nursery for that length of time.

I have to say after a couple of times that I have been away without the dc I vowed never again because coming back to reality was so bad

I think that is most definitely true if the boys dont see their dad or auntie/uncle etc for a while they are really grumpy with them.

Is it 2 years Bluebell ??

I have been interested in dental nursing for a while, but the courses are few and far between really and this is the first time I have managed to find one within a reasonable travelling distance. This course will give me a chance of getting a job in a dental practice and then doing further training to nvq level 3.

Cargirl, last time I went away it wasn't so bad, because after i'd been back a few days the kids were back at school LOL.

Yes its two years.Im hoping i might get a paid placement in the second year though as lots of childcare jobs are advertised requiring just level 2.But im sure i will cope if not.

When i was at school(which was quite a while ago lol) i did my work experience in a dental surgery and i absolutely loved it.I dont know why i didnt pursue it from there(i went into beauty).I even coped with watching a tooth extraction.

You might meet a nice man as well.I had a bit of a thing for one of my dentists and had to keep going back for a mystery toothache..

Where are you doing the dental nurse course? I looked for one last year and couldn't find one so decided that when Ds2 starts school i would go back to college and do a personnel certificate cause its the job i used to do (nearly 8 years ago tho!) I'm hoping it'll help me make friends and give my confidence a boost.

I blame these endless school holidays. Kids are driving us utterly demented at present and there are two of us, so god knows how you cope. My children have gone utterly feral and have ganged up on me. It's appalling. I prefer them nicely institutionalised and tamed by school and nursery. My throat is actually sore from shouting

The dental course is at Matthew Bolton college in Birmingham city centre.

Have tried to ring them but can't seem to get through, so will try again tommorow.

Bluebell, it was 2 years without paid work that put me off the chidcare diploma a bit tbh,.

Matthew boulton college isn't too far from me, its one of the ones i was looking at for september (and south birmingham and Solihull) we could end up at the same college :-)

Its called mummy bashing - what the kids are doing. They do it at school to. My mum and aunt (retired teachers) have both been on to me about this these holidays. My kids are angels with them, and then I get condensed naughtyness. Its like they save up all they're frustration and pinching of each other until they're back in a relaxed environment at home.

Kids at school, especially in the early years are apparently often very good and polite all day and then literally hit out at their mums at the school gate.

I had two days to myself last week felt great, caught up on washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning, got some decorating done. Two days back with the kids and I'm shattered. Listening to them mixing sand and water with leaves and screams in the garden at present.

Oh my kids are always really well behaved for everyone else.

Are you going to apply then Pastyourbedtime ??

Oh I get lots of moments like this, and I find it much worse when I have had time away from them, just being myself, then back to reality with the biggest bump!
My two fight all the time & drive me wild too. It is hard & lonely at times being a single mum.

Only a week before they're back at school - although that also means back to work for me as I work in the school! Not sure what's worse!!

I'm definately going to college but don't know which one yet, South Birmingham is the easiest to get too but they don't offer the courses that i'm interested in. I'm going to find out when the open days are and have a look round, see what the tutors are like. Last time I went to college I didn't really get along with my tutor, I felt like I was being treated like a teenager when I was 22 and had children! That was a few years ago now though.

I finally got through to someone at MB college and they confirmed that I should meet the requirements for a place so to go and enrol.

I am going to try and go on Friday afternoon when xp has the kids i think.

I'm at the end of my tether too. I've just discovered that my MP3 player is a godsend.

To be honest a was in the same situation really stressed and low ma ex left two years ago leaving me with two kids, a few months ago i went on anti depressants a didnt want to but have to say am coping so much better and its the best thing av done for me and the kids.

It may not be for you but its just a suggestion xxx