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so, what did you do with your "old" engagement rings - if you had one?

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isheisnthe · 10/08/2008 13:00

Just wondering really, split up over a year ago now, was engaged for 6 years with 2 dc. Whilst we were splitting up he asked for the ring back (it originally cost 1.5k) so he could give it to his daughter (13 at the time!) and I refused, as it wasn't me that caused the slipt (him - cheating).

Now tho, I wonder what to do with it - no point giving it to our DS's one day, as it hardly bought me any luck and I feeel its kind of tainted, so, do I give it back to him - keep it, or sell it - really not sure?

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CarGirl · 10/08/2008 17:59

Go to a jewellers that buys 2nd hand ask them what is their best price for it and that try ebay and have that as you reserve?

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isheisnthe · 10/08/2008 18:02

good plan - think that it was I will do.

Thanks

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YeahBut · 10/08/2008 18:03

I ended the relationship, so I gave it back to my ex. He was a controlling, emotionally abusive knob, and I didn't want anything that he had given me hanging around. We didn't have children, though. If we had, I may have kept it for them.
Ex sold it in Cash Convertors for a fraction of its value and used the proceeds to drink himself into oblivion for a while.

kama · 10/08/2008 18:06

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YeahBut · 10/08/2008 18:07

Bear in mind that the resale value of rings is based on the weight of the gold and the industry value of the stones. These are a fraction of the insurance / replacement value. If your ring is insured for 1.5k, a jeweller will offer you around 300 pounds for it.

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isheisnthe · 10/08/2008 18:08

perhaps I should insure it then and "lose it"

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Blandmum · 10/08/2008 18:12

I still wear all of mine. I can't ever see me marrying again so I'll wear them, and after my time dd can have my engagement ring and ds can have my eternity ring

raindropsonroses · 10/08/2008 20:13

My mother threw hers into a river. She said it would bring bad luck to somebody else otherwise.
I'd say to sell it though.

Goober · 10/08/2008 20:17

I sold mine.
Didn't get much for it, but at least it was gone.

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isheisnthe · 10/08/2008 21:10

i know that I am being madly sentimental but...... it just kinda feels wrong to sell something that was given with love and held dreams of the future (even if they didnt; happen)

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Chandra · 10/08/2008 21:59

Yes, but it is no good either to look at your hands and remember a negative thing (as in it didn't work). If a sad/negative thing is attached to the object better to let it go... perhaps I should get rid of them rather than reworking them into something different

solo · 10/08/2008 23:25

You can always cleanse them or have them 'exorsised' to rid them of old ghosts etc. If you had them reworked into a different piece of jewelry, you would be making them into what you want them to be, not what he gave you. I guess it's personal choice, but I took my heavy weight 18k gold wedding ring, a 14k gold band and a 9k gold band to a pawn brokers to sell and they offered me £10 the lot! The big wedding ring cost £350 in 1984...do you think I sold it? nah!

fuzzywuzzy · 10/08/2008 23:34

Chandra have you and your h split??

If you can get money for it I would, otherwise I'd do an excorsim type thing with it, cleanse the future type thing (I may just be nuts tho).

Chandra · 11/08/2008 02:13

Yes, we have been apart for almost a year now.

Mhamai · 11/08/2008 02:27

Ring no 1 was left on top of a ciggerette machine in a nightclub after a major row. I thought ex fiance had gone to retrieve it...........he hadn't. He said the next ring would be when we actually married. We didn't........Thank God!

Ring no 2 got hammered by me out of shape when I discovered an identical ring to it in ex fiance no 2's trousers. Needless to say that relationship didn't survive long after that!

Still never got to the bottom of where second identical ring appeared from. He swore he found it.............yeah riiiight!

So, who knows? third time lucky?

dragonstitcher · 11/08/2008 17:56

I still have two sets of wedding and engagement rings. They are in a jewellery box I hardly ever use. I was thinking that I was saving them for DDs but I get tempted to sell them.

SparklePrincess · 12/08/2008 11:07

I still wear my engagement ring on the other hand. Its a half carat almost flawless diamond. Have no idea what its worth. Any ideas?

tokentotty · 12/08/2008 11:15

All I have to offer is that the price of gold and other metals has never been higher....

SparklePrincess · 12/08/2008 13:01

Is it worth having the thing valued then? it costs just to get that done nowadays. Its an 18 carat gold band with a half carat virtually flawless diamond in it.

ConstanceWearing · 12/08/2008 13:31

I threw it in the dustbin where it belonged.

Also cheated on

SparklePrincess · 12/08/2008 14:09

Mine cheated on me too. Not the rings fault tho. Dont see why I should stop wearing it just because he`s a tosser. Lol.

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