oh God a year after separation I can still hardly bear to start thinking about what make me burn with rage becasue I am scared it will embitter me for ever.sometimes I feel so angry that I literally grind to a physical halt for a few seconds as it overwhelms me.
Let me see. - He paid nothing at all for the dcs for 6 months - he now pays £12 a month for them after CSA intervention in spite of having a pile of property oh and a third share of the £780K left to him this yer by his mother.
He will not work becasue he is a malingerer ill.
He hardly saw the dcs at all last year and not at all for the first six months of this. He would ignore my emails begging them to see them, hang up if I phoned him, call the police if I went to his house to try to reason with him, etc etc etc. I was so frustrated io didn't know what to do with myself.
then, without as much as a phone call to me he applied to the court for a contact order saying I was preventing contact. He turns up at court every inch the devoted father .Now he is seeing them (Spain tomorrow for a week in spite of his ill-helath and poverty) he threatens appplying for residence if ?I even look at him the wrong way.
He lives thirty miles away and is insisting that I drive the dcs down there every fortnight as "I should be promoting their realtionship with their father".
I deliberatley try not to think about him too much - the only calming thing is that I am so pleased I managed to break free of him.
I have never never breathed as much as a bad word about him to the dcs or in their presence yet I hjave got to the popint that if he died tomorrow I would feel a great deal of relief.