Do any of you go out alone ??

[IllegallyBrunette]

I mean of an evening to the pictures, or a bar or anything, completely alone, no friends, date etc.

Just wondered if anyone did.

ooh i used to like the dove when i was in london

Hey lou33 - I'll come to Thailand with you!!! (((raw hollow rasping laugh. Don't ask.))))

yes i think the bar thing is only really ok if you know that people you know will be in there or you know no one will but you are going to look at a paper asnd sit outside for an hour

i wouldnt be comfortable in a twon bar at night with people all in groups

a coffee and a book tho yes you get plenty of people shoping or on lunch hours or just between things on their own

ime there are always people on their own at the pictures

Lou33 I spent the afternoon in the Dove on the day before I emigrated! I was soaked right through after running around saying a few goodbyes...the pub was empty (was my fave pub) and the landlord let me take my trousers off and hang them over a chair and get them dry by the (not real) fire. I LOVE the Dove!

New landlord now though. No more free pints.

There was nobody in the pub when I was trouserless.

Shame the fire wasn't real though - that's the problem with smoke-free zone bollox. No real fires.

Plenty of real ales though. Well kept. Cask. aaagh sigh.

Actually more of a wine girl now. But in the old days...

I might see if I can work up the nerve to go to the pictures in the next couple of weeks then.

i havent been there for years, my mate had her first wedding reception there

Ah. Hope it was a sunny day - people crammed onto the balcony... the bog door banging-to in annoying fashion...

mmm, now I think of it the bogs are in a bad position...

I love going out on my own, cafe rouge is a good place to eat and drink alone IME and wine bars are fine to drink alone in - not places like wetherspoons though, it would feel different to me.

Def go to cinema alone - loads of people do!

I was recently in a pub for 20 minutes or so on my own when the rest of the folk in the group I was meeting decided to be late. Actually, it didn't feel too bad. Just sat there with my drink, sending texts. Would have been quite nice to read the paper or a book had I had one to hand. There was another solo woman in there drinking a cup of coffee.. Next time I meet that group, I will feel quite Ok about being the first to turn up, and will enjoy it! The more of us go out alone, the more normal it will become.

i think neva hits the nail on the head there in a way

if you can feel confident and entitled to be on your own then its fine ....thats sort of what i find when i do it in the middle of my 6 mile walk...im hot and thirsty and i know i am there just for a break and a cold drink and dont feel i am freakily looking for people to chat to or to get drunk

But if you are expecting people to join you at some point then thats not so bad is it.

Actually going out to go for a drink on your own is mind numbingly nerve wracking in my world LOL.

hell yes all the time and i absolutely love it. no meeting someone elses needs or working to another persons schedule. i eat alone, travel alone and do everything by myself! its very liberating!!

Can't you pretend people are going to join you?? In your head I mean?: like this:

ho-di-hum-di-ho. Yes hello bar-person, a large gin and tonic please. Make it a double. And a bag of those scampi fries. Thanks. ((look round confidently at pub door pretending you are waiting for it to swing open and all your mates to come in - Barry Manilow, Brittany Spears, Justin T, Snoop Dog, Gordon Brown, Amanda Platell, Jeremy Kyle - I mean, you have to REALLY pretend BIG TIME here...
grasp drink confidently, no eye contact with bar person this time...wander nonchalantly over to table...go back to bar to ask for a cloth (that's another couple of mins wasted and you are Still In The Pub!).

Sit back down. Fumble in bag/pocket for mobile. Take BIG swig of G + T..stare at phone for couple of secs. Another big swig. Look around you, see who's there (there will be absolutely nobody interesting believe me and they will all have Big Life Problems anyway). Another swig. Text yourself something like "Am in dognduck feelin like a spanner bt at lst I cme 4 drnky on own!"

Finish drink with swaggering last mouthful. Think about ordering a second, flick through a few tourism leaflets/dog-eared copy of the Metro, play with beer mat...order second drink...yay!

and so on...until you have been there at least one hour. Then get up in grumpy-looking mood, check watch. Smile to self...leave pub and move on to next one
go home triumphantly.

until you leave.

Sit down.

LOL Humanbean, your post mad me chuckle.

Have just depressed myself further by finding lads from school on FB, with lovely happy, smiley family pics.
One in partic is of a lovely bloke who I turned down because he was too nice.

sorry - "until you leave", and "sit down"...well, I had left the pub in my head and gone back there again...

in my head.

God i wish I had brought booze.

It is only 8pm.

Just imagine that FB stands for Feckin Bustards.

Lovely happy smiley family pics? Mmm I have a few of those upstairs. In the Wank Box as I call it.

Lovely bloke you turned down? So? he is so lovely he has time to put himself on Feckin Bustards?

Stop trawling all those websites making yourself feel bad. Have a look at Bill Bailey videos on YouTube...where he does the bbc news theme. Bloody hilarious.

To be fair it wasn't his profile, he doesn't have one, it was his wifes.

Fucking friday nights always turn out the same here. I soend the first hour glad of the peace and then after that it falls apart. I get bored of talking to myself, go wandering on FB or others and usually end up blarting.

Such a muppet.

God, I am moaning again.

Sorry

Stop being fair. His wife has a Fat Bumhole profile on Feckbook?

Sorry...am laughing at own words. Its got to be time for another glassofwine.

I am getting through a whole packet of pistachios too. So fattening. But then I have lost two stone in ten minutes (Doctor Who time-zone)

Friday nights are always a big difficulty. Bit like sat nights, the post arriving and monday mornings.

But hey - we are talking virtually which is better than talking to a fat tattoed bloke down at crabby dicks (real name of bar. Can you BELIEVE that???) in real life.

I do - and sitting in coffee shops is a particular pastime / obsession of mine. Also go to bars by myself sometimes when I am waiting for my highly unsuitable "boyfriend" to finish work

Would deffo go to the cinema by myself though - sounds good to me.

Am debating going to bed at the mo, nevermind going out alone.

When I think of how long it took to get xp to have the kids overnight, and it just seems like a waste of time now.

yeah, used to when working away as needed something to do, did feel a bit muppetesque at times tho