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IS HE FOR REAL??????

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fawkeoff · 06/07/2008 22:31

EXdp just strolled into my house, put his phone on charge, lit up a fag and sat his arse on my couch he's had a beer!!!!

i said "what the fuck are you doing in my house"

he has had a bad day and is feeling depressed......meaning he has had to tell all his family we have split at his sisters christening today because i refused to go with him.................i am so fucking angry at him, i burst into tears when he left

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OverMyDeadBody · 06/07/2008 22:34

Oh my god, what an arsehole.

How did he just stroll into your house? does he have a key? change the locks.

You need to be more assertive and next time just tell him to leave.

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fawkeoff · 06/07/2008 22:39

no i got the key back.....hadn't got round to locking it.....stupid of me i know....in a way im lucky it was just him...........

but he has made me angry....strolling in expecting me to feel sorry for him....he's been out all bloody day.....ive got our DC 80% of the time!!!!!!

he fucks me off

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prettyfly1 · 06/07/2008 22:41

bloody hell - he just walked in! does he not get that you are not together any more. make sure you lock that door in future poppet. cheeky git!!

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fawkeoff · 06/07/2008 22:50

i know, its just so rude of him....i feel uncomfortable when he is here.....i think he really thinks i am lying when i say "im so glad we have split up"!!!!!!
he hasn't had the ego boost of me rocking in a corner hysterically begging him to love me!!!!!

i am not in love with him anymore, he is not in love with me anymore.......doesn't make the situation any less easier

i am just glad that the DC were in bed or else they DS (2) would have been in tears crying for him when he left...........utter fuck head

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OverMyDeadBody · 06/07/2008 23:00

if you feel uncomfortable when he comes round then just don't let him in. Make sure you lock your doors or better yet change the locks to one of those yale locks where there is no handle on the outside, so you have to use a key to open the door.

It's very disrespectful of him to just walk into your house.

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fawkeoff · 06/07/2008 23:20

he is a nob jockey....thats all i can say to sum him up

he has reverted to bein 19 again......i honestly cant believe i dont know him anymore.....its like they morph into another being....feel like ive had children with a stranger....its quite sad really

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davidtennantsmistress · 06/07/2008 23:22

sad but helps you to move on - mourn the future you could have had thou.

what a twat - feel sorry for him indeed! if I were you i'd at least put the chain over the door if you can't get the locks changed for a mo - and say the kids kept opening the door. - will keep him out either way!

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fawkeoff · 06/07/2008 23:31

i am going to......just fed up of it all really....i would never walk into his house like that....i mean he didnt have the decency to knock

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fawkeoff · 07/07/2008 09:45

he has rung me this morning.....for bullshit chit chat

I really dont know what he wants from me!!!!
i mean when he came round last night i really thought he was going to burst into tears, i asked him if he wa ok....then he comes out with im depressed about everything he hasn't acted very depressed imo....told him that what he did was unacceptable anyway so he has apologised

i just really feel like my brain is in a mincer....forgot to mention that on saturday he was questioning where i was on friday night and who i was with........ i never ask him about what he does with his personal/social life

i just dont know what to do????????

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moosh · 07/07/2008 11:09

Hi fawkeoff its actually none of his business who you are with and where you are going. My ex was like that when we split up and I was given good advice. Its a "need to know" basis, he only "needs to know important things to do with the DCs he doesn't "need to know" anything else.
It took me a while to handle that kind of situation, I now tell ex partner that it is none of his business, if he presses me, I hang up. He has new squeeze now so he isn't so bad but he still tries to ask occassionally and I say to him that the children are safe with my sister when I go out and that is all he "needs to know".
Change your locks if you need to. He'll get the gist eventually. Good luck.

gillybean2 · 07/07/2008 11:12

Sounds like he's having trouble dealing with things and is looking to you as someone who cared about him and somewhere he feels loved (by kids and previously you).

I think you just need to keep being firm and reminding him that you are not together and he can't just pop round to yours like you were a mate or something.

He might have a copy of the key so probably best to change the locks. WOuld advise against the ones you can only open with a key from teh outside. My door has blown shut on me when i put the rubbish out and I couldn't get back in!

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fawkeoff · 07/07/2008 17:47

he is seeing someone......i really dont give a shit, i would have thought he wouls stop all of this shit.

I think he still feels he is entitled to walk in and out because it was his home and he cant grasp that it isn't anymore.........so i have rang my landlord and asked him to move me when one of his houses come up in the area i am in........feel i want a fresh start, a place were EX has no emotional ties with as well

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