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Met up with some weirdo off internet dating site on thursday.

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SparklePrincess · 06/07/2008 01:44

My god, what a liar, & I didnt realise photos could be so inaccurate, lol!
He was hideously ugly, I mean really really ugly, & about 5 inches shorter than he said he was. He wanted to meet up in a supermarket coffee shop "so we can do our shopping afterwards" WTF! He spent the whole time insulting me & everyone else in the place & going on about problems he`d had with previous single mothers asking him to pick up their kids etc etc. He walked me to my car, I gave him a peck on the cheek & he tried to make it more then he text me seconds after id pulled away in my car saying "interested?" I replied once id got home that he was a nice guy, but just as a friend. Thank god he hasnt replied.
Thats one off the list I suppose. LOL!!!!

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citylover · 15/07/2008 23:21

Oh no sent a reply to one and then he replied back - I hadn't replied to him yet and he just sent me another to say he noticed me online and was hoping to have a few chats.

That feels slightly stalkerish and makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. Surely it's accepted that one might be talking to several people.

I wouldn't say to someone I was interested in - ooh noticed you were online. Let's talk now.

Gawd this is difficult.

zippitippitoes · 15/07/2008 23:27

i wouldnt meet anyone who was hideousluy ugly..i am shallow

i require sporty/outdoorsy,interested in arts and culture, good looking and clev er and with a decent job

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SparklePrincess · 16/07/2008 01:01

Sometimes photographs are very kind.

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citylover · 16/07/2008 11:29

Well stalkerish guy has ruled himself out, from being worried he had offended me because I hadn't replied immediately - I told him he hadn't, he now has gone on to tell me in a humorous fashion about a tattoo on an intimate part of his body which will extend should be able to meet me. Yuk yuk yuk

What makes any man think that saying that to someone they have exchanged a couple of emails with a few pleasantries with will endear them to you.

You've gotta laugh though haven't you? It's a real eye opener. LOL

As I said I am not averse to a bit of dirty talk but only once I have got to know someone first.

zippitippitoes · 16/07/2008 11:30

i do find internet dating stories very entertaining

bethoo · 16/07/2008 11:39

i always end up getting a photo sent of their willies! i mean the yare so ugly! a face would do!

moosh · 16/07/2008 12:05

Love reading all this, you guys have totally put me off Internet dating . Did do a few singles nites, one was for aged 36-45 yrs and I am certain that all the men, bar one, was OVER 45 . My friend and I were in hysterics as they just got older and older as they walked through the door. I thought "If you are 45 then I must still be at school !!!!!" (I'm 36 ).
Went out last Saturday to a massive singles party in the centre of London and most of the men were pig ugly, but generally nice to chat with, but one guy was lovely , I spoke to him all night. I've been on a date and hes taking me for a meal Friday, my only worry is that he is the same height as me. I know its not bad, but all my boyfriends have been taller than me and its strange to have someone the same height.
Oh well, least hes not smaller than me, I'd have to put up with "SMALL MAN SYNDROME" !!!!otherwise.

zippitippitoes · 16/07/2008 14:20

moosh dont be put off my bf is lovely and we met on a free dating site..hescores on all my criteria listed below

zippitippitoes · 16/07/2008 14:22

i have been on two singles acticity breaks too and they were great fun for just meeting people

citylover · 16/07/2008 16:43

No don't be put off - there is a slow burner on there, I am corresponding with who is a genuine guy.

I am finding it quite fun and have received some very positive comments as well, which has boosted my self esteem.

Still hankering for exbf though. He is my perfect man in every way.

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SparklePrincess · 18/07/2008 22:59

Had a very steamy phone call with someone last night. Its all getting a bit pervy. lol!

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PurpleOne · 19/07/2008 00:55

What is it with these guys?

I have now ditched the pof bloke. Told him if there's no comms by the weekend, (as in MSN, texting or phoning) and guess what! Nada.

Been on the phone (141 beforehand lol) and talked to another bloke. A little too posh for my liking but he was chatty.
Then out of the blue he said 'I bet you have a nice juicy clit' and

I do not expect a perv phone call with someone I have never met!. Phone went down, he's now blocked.
Do blokes not have any morals or decency anymore? Just plough straight in with the sex talk and think that all women like it?
Jesus Christ

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SparklePrincess · 20/07/2008 01:28

Lol PurpleOne. There are shed loads of perv`s on these sites. Ive had a 27 year old texting me all day. Thats really flattering coz im 35. Lol!

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solo · 20/07/2008 01:46

I met my Dp on FriendsReunitedDating almost 4 years ago. He looked gorgeous on his photo and he is gorgeous in real life too. Love him to bits.

Had some nightmare dates too...some had put on photo's that were clearly(well, clearly after we'd met up)5 to 10 years out of date.

It's a minefield out there!!!

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SparklePrincess · 20/07/2008 23:06

Sounds great solo.
27 year old been virtually ignoring me today after positively stalking me yesterday. WTF is that about? Anyone male here who can shed some light on why you lot do this?

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retiredgoth · 20/07/2008 23:24

....the thing about internet dating sites (and I have dabbled in the past) is you never know just how seriously others are taking it.

...you don't want to appear strange or stalker-ish, whilst also trying to convey an appropriate level of interest. It is all a little wearing, in fact!

...and I spoke to women who seemed bizarrely keen on commitment after 2 days of internet chat, and others reluctant to commit to a coffee after weeks worth of communication (Sainsbury's cafe I thought. Well, we could do the shopping afterwards, saves a trip...)

...so, Sparkle P, it isn't a surprise to me that your 27 year olds attentions vary in intensity. Perhaps he is waiting to see if you contact him, to reassure himself that he is not endlessly messaging someone who isn't really interested...

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SparklePrincess · 20/07/2008 23:37

Thanks retiredgoth. It truly is a minefield this lark. I think ive had the lot already. Ive had the ones who start banging on about having found the girl they want to spend the rest of their life with after a couple of chats, the dirty sods only up for a shag, the married dirty sods up for a shag, the total bullshitters who lie on their profile, the complete nutters & the stalkers. This is all in 3 weeks. Not bad. LOl!

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minorityrules · 21/07/2008 00:07

I used to be a fan but the last one I think has put me off for life

Chatted for a while, a few calls then he went awol, no answers to text/calls/email so left it, few months later returned exact same thing only to go again

Again, came back, we finally met 3 weeks ago, had dinner, all lovely, back to mine. We talked all night (he left at 7am) had a bit of a snog but that was all. Next day, telling me I'm lovely blah blah blah

But then he goes quiet again, no answer as before. Spoke once or twice, me saying look was lovely evening but seems your busy, him saying yes busy but really like you

Came to a head last night. Said we would meet in evening, no word after 3pm so I text a snotty text. He came back with kid/ex trouble

Then he turned up on msn, saying he not happy with the fact I have friends with benefits (I've been single 5 years, of course I have people lol) And he doesn't want to be just one of my 'friends' cos he doesn't sleep around

So today I emailed him, would you like to date properley? I will tell friends I am off the market..... not a word!

I know he is single as I have his home phone number and his address, have no idea what he is wanting, think I'll cut my losses tomorrow

oh dear, that turned into a bit of a rant....i've been seething all day lol

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SparklePrincess · 21/07/2008 00:14

sounds like a f***g arsehole minorityrules. Youre well rid. Lol!

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lou33 · 21/07/2008 00:54

oh dont let him try and dictate who you are shagging or not

you are not in an exclusive relationship, if he doesnt like it the can lump it

quite frankly his sex life is none of your business until you have decided to start seeing each other exclusively

i have never discussed my sex life with any of my past casual arrangements , or expected them to ask me about it, and nor would i ask them

tell him to mind his own business

lou33 · 21/07/2008 00:55

he can lump it

lou33 · 21/07/2008 00:55

and i mean your sex life is none of his business

sorry it is late, i should be in bed

lunavix · 21/07/2008 19:42

I've joined loopylove and I must say I have started chatting to all normal seeming people so far! Very different to the last one I joined (which I think was actually it's sister site) and got mobbed by thorough weirdos straight away

prettyfly1 · 21/07/2008 22:14

i am having some fun with pof. just not taking it seriously - one guy told me i came off as tough but looked soulful - OH PURRRLEEAASEE. My ex is literally on all of them grrrrr - so i have to go through and block him before he realises i am there. ffs. that puts me off slightly cause there are so many lies in his profile its not even funny and i am getting a bit cynical but the whole chatting thing is quite good fun.

TwoIfBySea · 21/07/2008 22:51

'He wanted to meet up in a supermarket coffee shop "so we can do our shopping afterwards".'

Sorry if this is cruel SparklePrincess but that has given me the best laugh I've had in days! I truly am sorry but that one is going to have me giggling for days, the mad harpy that I am!

Unfortunately on POF I am the one people would dismiss as fugly so although my profile is there I don't contact people, saves them the bother. But I am the height I say I am. And I would want someone taller as I am truly sick of small-man-syndrome.