Aggghhh god i hate him so much!

[charlotte121]

Im sorry but i really need to have a rant.

Exp txt me this morning to ask if he could see ds..... no mention of dd. So i just sent him a txt bk say "if you want" he then sent me a msg saying
"if your gonna have a go when i get over there im not gonna bother coming over"

I am so sick of the way he speaks to me... he gives me no help what so ever... no money for either of the children and to top it all off he has now started ignoring dd. She is only 3 weeks old and has made no attempt to bond with her... i understand this can be difficult for men but if isnt going to even try to make an effort to bond with her and refuses to spend any time with dd then how will she ever get to know him and how will he ever bond with her?!?
He hasnt bought her anything since she was born and has held her twice.
I just dont know how to deal with the situation.... he isnt treating the kids equally and although this doesnt really matter now it upsets me and will obviously become a problem in the future when dd can understand that her dad is rejecting her!
I really am at breaking point with this situation.... I HATE HIM for what he is doing to the kids... im a student so dont have much money and they deserve better... he is such a waste of space and im sick of it..... aghhhhhh i realy could scream! I would really like to punch him!

can someone pleeeeeaaaaasssseee calm me down!

Hello charlotte121! hope you have calmed down a bit!!LOL!
My best friend went through this with her ex, they split when she was pregnant with thier second child.
It went on till her second daughter was 2 and a half.
He could ruin her day /evening from one text message, messed her around with seeing his children , was constantly late and she never saw a penny from him since they split.
He would only see the children on his terms so he had complete control of her life still.
He also seemed to favour the eldest over the youngest.
I feel for you charlotte121, as my friend used to feel so sorry for her youngest, it used to break her heart.
In the ned she cut all ties with him, changed her mobile,house number and they went through the courts with arrangements with the children.

He sees both children now, and my friend is so much happier as they have fixed arrangements and he can not change them. Its all done through solicitors, so she no longer gets horrible texts, or phone calls.
He also has to give her money for children now.

Good on you for being a student and wanting to better yourself, im a student and its bloody hard going with kids and no money! good luck

thanks jaz im just sick of him, i wish he wud bugger off and leave us alone but thats not really my decision to make.
i think i might go down the same route as your friend and hope it works.
its funny how you leave sone1 to regain control of your life but in reality he still has control of my life. agghhhh horrible man.
thanks again x

i think what is also hard to grasp is the fact that you thought you knew him better than anyone.....when in reality you feel that you have 2 beautiful children to a stranger.
If he wants to act like a wanker and treat them differantly then he will have to answer to his little girl when she gets older......regards the maintenance tell him if he doesnt give you a donation to their upbringing then you will go the legal route

solicitors
csa
etc etc etc

I know its hard bringing up 2 children alone and carrying on with your studies, i am doing the exact same thing, me and EXdp split up the week before i was due to sit my G.C.S.Es and it would have been so easy to give up......but its not worth it, just you wait until you're qualified and you have a good job......you will be so proud of what you have achieved, and so will your babies x

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