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Oh FGS

17 replies

PurpleOne · 01/07/2008 22:09

It just never bloody ends does it?

Just seem to spend all my life 'just coping'. Things start getting a bit better and then another double bloody whammy!

Just wanted to rant really. Am sat here in tears.

Thanks for listening x

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

charliecat · 01/07/2008 22:10

Whats happened?

NorthernLurker · 01/07/2008 22:10

I've no idea what your story is but that all sounds horrid. Rant away Really hope things get better for you soon

ivykaty44 · 01/07/2008 22:12

Oh can I send you some hugs (((((((()))))))))))

prettyfly1 · 01/07/2008 22:13

can i have some hugs too. i feel the same way today. have been in tears most of the night. i am sending you hugs first tho. hope your ok poppet

gillybean2 · 01/07/2008 22:18

Hug all round. Do either of you want to share any of what's got to you and making you so upset?

Or do you just need the hugs and some ether flavoured chocolate?

NorthernLurker · 01/07/2008 22:20

for prettyfly too

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PurpleOne · 01/07/2008 22:21

I mentioned on my 'date' thread here last week that I had a bit of a booze prob which I am getting treatment for.

Have now been hit with a bloody summons to attend the magistrates court.
Damn the education welfare - they never offerend anything positive support and they never saw the changes I made.

Too little too late I fear.
One step towards positivity and now been hit by a shower of bloody boulders!

Oh, and hugs to prettyfly. Take things easy x x

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prettyfly1 · 01/07/2008 22:22

ether and valium? bloody awful day at the office and just feeling sad today i think. bills, stress and never ending washing doesnt help. sorry for hijacking!

charliecat · 01/07/2008 22:26

whats the worst they can do? Surely someone will be there saying you have improved? Shit day here too.
May tommrow be better for us all!

charliecat · 01/07/2008 22:26

whats the worst they can do? Surely someone will be there saying you have improved? Shit day here too.
May tommrow be better for us all!

charliecat · 01/07/2008 22:26

sorry stuttering laptop!

gillybean2 · 01/07/2008 22:29

PurpleOne - Acknowledging you have a problem is a very important and positive step forward. Don't let one little setback knock you right back. Things will get better but it's one step at a time. SOmetimes those steps forward have to take a slight detour or step over or round an obstacle. This is just one of those many obstacles.

Can you get some advice from the CAB or the place/person you are getting treatment from? They might also be able to vouch for you at court or provide a letter to take with you saying that you are having treatment.

It's hard to give advice without the full details. Not asking for more, but just saying in case you find some of what I say irrelevant or already covered.

There are lots of places to get advice and help. And of course us all here for support.

Gilly

gillybean2 · 01/07/2008 22:36

PrettyFly - been there, done that, and no doubt will be back there again all too soon!

Am on top of the washing today, all the lovely weather has made it easy to get things dry. But have no clean pots and pans in the house! It'll still be there when I wake up, not going to worry about it now.

Bills, now if only they were easier to cut down to size... Though I have to say I've been really surprised how much my electric bill went down when I changed over to long life light bulbs.

Try and find other things to think about. Someone here gave some really good advice which I've been following and it's helped me sleep much better. Instead of lying in bed worrying about things keep a paper and pen by the bed. Write it down to be dealt with tomorrow and then you can go to sleep a little easier.

I've also been going on some of the more 'fun' threads here, like arts and craft and days out! Can distract form the heartache and upset we see a lot of here. try to steer clear of those trheads when you're feeling down.

Take care
Gilly

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PurpleOne · 01/07/2008 22:36

I spoke to the EWO today and told her that my alcohol keyworker will be in touch and she will prove, with my drink diaries and effort that there has been positive changes.

EWO told me that no way is she retracting the referral.

At best, it's a peranting / education order and a fine (£2,500 max)
At worst, it's 3 months inside doing porridge.

Oh fuck

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charliecat · 01/07/2008 22:48

Well keep up the good work and plead your case when you get to court, Its not easy this lark at all

gillybean2 · 01/07/2008 22:51

Well maybe she's trying to make you see how important this is by refusing to withdraw the referral. But you do already know that and you've taken steps to sort it and yourself out. So that's positive!

Get some advice from others, CAB can help with the legal side and jargon. And your alcohol keyworker can help with support and advice.

Why not tell the judge you want to do the parenting course as you think it will be really beneficial to you and your child/ren. In fact look into doing one anyway perhaps.

It could be a really positive step in helping yourself move forward.

Try not to worry right now. Easier said than done I know. If you start to stress and can't sleep just start writing a list of things you are going to do and questions you want to ask your keyworker etc and then put it from your mind until tomorrow because it's on the tomorrow list.

Gilly

Tinkerbel6 · 02/07/2008 10:22

Hope you are ok PO ? let the court see that you are a reformed character and hopefully it will be left at that, have you got anyone to go with you for support ?

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