Thinking about moving away!

[lozzawoo]

I am thinking about moving away as I am a single parent and his father doesnt see him rarly maybe once a week and never pays maintenance. He has told me if I go he will stop me. What rights does he have to do that & if I go what parental right will he have to my son. We were not married. Please help!!

Lozzawoo, just ignore him. He CANNOT stop you moving anywhere you like in the UK. he has absolutely no rights to do this. Take no notice of his idiotic threats.

I can understand your concerns. I worry exp will influence bad behaviour on dd, and just ruin all my hard work to raise dd to the best that I can. However, I think it is still best for the children to see their fathers, and it is very good of you that despite his background and behaviour (unstable contact) you want your ex to see ds. Just remember as you are the main carer, you know what's best for your ds, and so ex should be listening to you, not the other way round. And as long as ex has contact with ds, I dont see why he should get courts involved in the matter. But I think you should contact CSA, and sort out maintenance. He has a responsibilty of providing for ds as well as playing a role in his life. If you go on the CSA website, they do a calculation based on his income if you know it, to see how much you would get.

With him being recovered from all his problems could the court still give him access??

aww that's such a shame PD. that must be hard

If he went via the courts he would almost certainly be granted less contact than he has now - once a fortnight rather than once a week, so it wouldn't be in his interest. And if he doesn't bother now, I can't see him bothering later.

Thanks aloha! ;)

Good luck with your move! An hour away is NOTHING.

if hes anything like my ex, its all just talk, never any action. but a good thing to do is keep a diary of things like when he doesnt turn up. just to have as a record

I did think about keeping a record and defintely it is always talk with him lol....

Just try to be strong. If he starts threatening you, ignore him. Would you be moving to somewhere near more support, like family?

Thanks for all the advice it has been a great help

Yeah I would be moving closer to family

well that's good. it's tough being a single mum. Ive lived on my own for almost a year and a half now, and probably wouldnt have gotten through it without the help of my mum who lives about 10mins drive away. If it's going to be beneficial to you, as by the sounds of it being where you are at the moment isnt too helpful near your ex, Id say go for it and good luck!

Thanks

Its sounding better each time I think about it lol....

lol pd

well Ive always believed that if the mother is happy, then the child will be happy. And my dd seems to be doing just fine with only seeing her daddy every 3 weeks, or when he does come. Sure, we should think about the father as well, but we need to consider ourselves too, and as long as he still has the option to see ds, then I don't see a problem