Come on you experts, what do you talk to blokes about

[IllegallyBrunette]

Sent a mesage to a bloke on a dating site earlier, and he has replied giving me his msn addy, so I have added him.

So, if he signs in, what shall I talk about ?? I always run out of things after about 5 minutes.

he will probably ask you stuff and hopefully it will just flow from there... as you can ask him stuff...

tell us something about him then?

Oh, ok, one sec, i'll have to find his profile, and the site is really slow.

Ok, he is 36, lives in the same city as me, and he has either one or two children.

He is divorced and self employed, and thats about all I know.

He's a bloke. You don't talk, you ask questions and appear absolutely fascinated by the responses. He will then think you are terribly, terribly interesting because you, er, said 'oh yes, I do that too, tell me more' a lot.

Self-employed? Wow. How interesting. What do you do? oooh yes, that must be difficult, how interesting, ah yes, I've always wanted to know about that....

Oh is that all MI, thats easy then LOL.

Honestly though I was crap at this stuff as a teen, and i'm even worse now as my mind just goes completely and utterly blank.

I should of paid more attention when we all hung out in the park at 16 LOL.

I'm dreadfully bad at chatting up blokes . Mainly because I forget all this stuff and Go On A Bit. Till his eyes glaze over.

LOL, that will be me once I am on a roll, I just need a big push to get started LOL.

Anyhow, I replied to his message on the dating site, to say i'd added him, but no reply as yet, so I am ok for now LOL.

Ask him about his fave films. That's usually quite a good one. I am terrible at chatting people up. I argue with everyone, generally about politics and 'isms' . But films are quite safe, honestly!!

Most men tend to think 'pulp Fiction' is an excellent film. So don't slag it off if her mentions it lol.

Trying to think back to first date here, and remember asking general questions about what music he liked etc (at which point he nearly didn't make date 2 for admitting to owning "Now that's what I call music 586", or whateber number we may be on now!!)
Think we talked films too, but can't remember much else. Think I just waffled about any old rubbish!

Hmm I don't think I can help. If I was any good at talking to blokes I wouldn't be a lone parent perhaps...!? ;)

But on a more serious note guys generally love it if you are really into what they are saying, interested, asking for more detail and lean in towards them a little too (ok maybe not on msn). If you run out of things to say make some excuse about a friend popping round or the phone ringing or something and can you pick it up later.

But if you run dry after 5 mins how's it going to be if/when you meet!? Maybe it goes to show they're not teh one for you after all.

Have fun
Gilly

I need not have worried, as the bloke seems to of changed his mind LOL.

Thanks for all of the advice though. Will refer back to this if I ever someone does actually want to speak to me.

how can he have changed his mind, has he blocked you or something or is he ignoring the conversation ?

He asked me to add him, so I did, but he has since not signed it at all, or he has but he has blocked my addy.

He has been online since because he has read my last message on the dating site, and was last logged in late last night.

I'm not bothered. I think it was yet another case of them sending a message and then reading that I have kids.