hello, me,dd and mozzie bites are home from hol, ex dh is now married, and ex inlaws will be round soon, i am knackered!

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We had a lovely time, relaxed as it can be when staying with your mother anyway .

One particular mozzie bite is enormous, about 4 inches across as I speak,

Another annoying thing is the inlaws coming, well the very offically ex ones now.

Am stressed just thinking about it. The are coming over in ab out an hour. Havent seen them for a yr, as they live away, buit obv have been over for ex's wedding.

Hmm what to talk about.

My mother inlaw (ex) will prob get very emotional. How can I keep it light? How can I not shout it form the rooftops that her son is a cock?

Talk about DD - what she has been doing, send them all to the park, rabbit about your holiday, cut any talk about the wedding off and then, treat yourself when they have gone.

Good luck and how was the weather? Awful up here in the North in case that makes you feel better!

Hey PC. Glad you had a good time. I remember xh's grandparents visiting when he and I had just split up. It was the most surreal visit ever. We all just pretended that we'd never heard of him and talked about the history of a small town in our area. lol. How's that for bizarre? Hope your visit goes better than that. Really feel for you, but hope it goes okay.

hiya,

It was bloody hot in spain, about 35 in the shade one day!! Too hot to sunbathe, and I am a stickler for a tan, BUT kept on with the factor 30.!!

Well it went ok. It was very surreal as you said aw. We went to collect dd form school, and that was lovely for them all, not for me but for them.

We had a coffee, and dd an icecream. it's very sad all round as these little delights are something they never get to do. I know they miss and love dd very much.

I felt very awkward, as tho we had this rather large 'thing' sitting there amongst us, ie the wedding, which we couldn't speak of.

I, chatted about dd. It was just sad, for my ex mil, we have known each other along time.

They came over the next afternoon too, and this time, after mil asked me if I knew that ex dh was in their home country (ie for his honeymoon)I just said no i didn't, and that he doesn't ring so how would I know.

I don't know why she was telling me but I cut her off and said I just didn't want to know anything about it.

I then spoke of dd's distress, about how wanky thier son has been. I just needed to tell them to their faces. I needed to soemhow. In a way I wanted to let them see my face, my concern and my anger.

Then ex fil said oh perhaps dd doesn't like going to ex's house cos there are better toys at my house. (in german with sort of translation by mil).

I then gave up. Ihtink that is the most stupid thing he has ever said. I couldn't quite comprehend how trivial this comment was based on what I was relaying to them about dd's upset and betrayal.

dd, had, the night before sobbed at bedtime and told me a few things that she had overheard last october. She had been holing this in for months, and was too scared to tell me. Poor lamb. Oh and she also described to me in rather alot of detail the makings of a spliff. So he has obviously been skinning up in front of her.

I told them all this. Yet they just looked blank.
mil cried again, and fil stared at the floor.

I felt a bit mean in a way, but I carry this by myself, and tbh I get so frustrated with their denial of his behaviour.

sorry i meant lw (little woman)

What a mess, heh? So sad, isn't it and so, so avoidable (yes, of course I am thinking various swear-words at this point)?

Glad DD is talking, even if it is stuff you'd rather hadn't taken place.

Hold on in there. Being nice about ex-FIL - he may well have said the first thing that came into his head - irrelevant or not.

You have done a good thing seeing them - good to them, good for DD. Now, what about that treat?

Have a good weekend.