Bad Day

[purpleme12]

My child was violent and aggressive towards me again today
Cos I threw her rubbish in the bin by mistake that she was saving for her textiles

I didn't react well
Because when you've put up with it for so long it becomes too hard
It's times like these I wish she lived with her dad
But even when I say it she won't

I'm so sad

And her dad is put up on a pedestal and can do no wrong
Gets none of this behaviour

It's tough being a single Mum OP. I'm guessing your child isn't actually a junior school child? If she's secondary/high school then hormones will be coming into the mix. It's worrying that she's violent and aggressive. Are you willing to say in what way is she so? How long have you and her DF separated? The fact she wants to stay with you shows she values you more, so take heart.

Years ago we split up

She's at high school

It's not really new, this thing about emotions

She can't control them. I don't know how we can stop it though. She's having 6 sessions with the lower level of CAMHS which to be honest I think make no difference whatsoever. And I don't know what will.

Before today I thought we were actually going through a good patch. Really good. But it doesn't seem to last

I used to deal with it better. But when you've put up with it for god knows how long you get worse at dealing with it. So she'll probably hate me when she's older as well

You aren’t a lone parent, you are a single parent. A lone parent has no other parent on the scene at all (like me - I’m a widow).
How old is your child? If a teen then leave their stuff - you call it ‘rubbish’ but it wasn’t was it?
I’ve always maintained that parenting adolescents is the hardest phase. Do you have a good relationship with your ex? Is she spending any time there this summer? Maybe you can both get some breathing room from each other.

Bloody hell why did you feel the need to point out the single parent Vs lone parent??

There is no section for single parents so I literally couldn't post in a Single Parent section!

Why have you replied like that? Lone parent snd single parent are widely accepted to mean parenting with no other adult in the house.

Rude and unnecessary. Hardly the time to make your little point.

im sorry to hear about today OP, my daughter is the same, hoping to start medication soon.

Is she? What is the medicine for can I ask?

Just feel ashamed cos it's like the worst behaviour isn't it and alone and like I've no idea how to solve it.

She has just been diagnosed with severe adhd shes autistic but I always knew there was something more she is often violent and smashes up the house. Is your daughter diagnosed with anything?

No

Sometimes I wonder

But she's not clear cut with symptoms

I even spoke to school about it but they just came back saying nothing. And of course she's fine at school. I almost wish she wasn't

Then it would be more obvious to people

Wow that’s not a supportive reply

@purpleme12 is having a hard time and posted for support 💐

and you as a single/lone or even just as a mum should be able to show some support @mondaytosunday

parenting is hard

having a child with Sen makes it doubly hard

I would go back to the school, you can live like this, they need to help in some way. Try the GP also as you don’t need the school to refer ive gone through the GP and they did a right to choose referral. I know it sounds awful but could you set up cameras?

Many children mask at school and hold in their emotions

so when they come home to you as her safe space she can release and explode

which makes things harder as not everyone sees what you have to deal with

the school should know about masking