Feeling fedup

[2plusangels]

Hi...I have 2 children, one is 8months and no help or family around me (please don't think i'm fishing for sympathy) and my baby's father(who is working, self employed) has changed benefit again, which means that it will take more weeks for any money (£5) to come to my account. It really is not about the money, I am just feeling fed up and for some reason i have been thinking how i will tell my child when a little older that her father doesn't want any thing to do with her. Just feel like i'm losing my mind

are you claiming everything you can financially?
dont think about the future, just take one day at a time.
her father didnt want anything to do with her, but she has a very loving mother, which will help to compensate.
not sure what to say, but couldnt leave your post unanswered.

((2plusangels))

Thank you so much averyquickex. Yes I am. Just feeling lonely, I suppose. It's not easy with 2, 1 with SN. but thank you.

Hmm - money worries and emotional ones, well, then, no wonder you are feeling the way you are.

Can you survive OK without the fiver or get someone to lend it to you? If you can get by without it for a few weeks, when you do get it, why not SPLURGE - buy something you don't need but you'll all have fun with - soft-play, bubbles, a cheap paddling pool: anything that gives you all a lift. Lush bath bombs and share the bath?

You don't have to tell your little girl her father's an idiot. You re-phrase it, with a positive spin: Daddy's in Outer Mongolia. And, immediately add, but we (give a list) are here and love you.

I had a fabulous half-hour with my younger's therapist and she put it in a nutshell - life isn't fair, you as the caring parent cannot give your child what you'd really like - a loving set of parents (unless you hit lucky - and I do know some cases) who are committed to their children, so you have to make the most of what you have got on offer and that is do-able.