Does anyone feel annoyed by this And wonder if people say this to single dads or just mums that are expected to feel this way and want to be with their kids 24/7? So it really annoys me when as a single mum you’re completely overwhelmed, struggling, and just need to vent about how hard parenting alone is and needing a break and people come back with things like “they’re only young for a short time”, “you’ll miss it when they grow up”, or “if your ex had them and you didn’t see them every day you’d miss them”?
Yes, I would miss them. But since when is that a bad thing? I don’t understand why people say it like it should make you feel guilty. It’s completely normal to miss people, and actually quite healthy, you get a break, you recharge, and then you appreciate the time you do have together more.
I genuinely think I’d be a thousand times happier if I had regular breaks. Yes, I’d miss them, but I don’t see that as negative at all.
Right now I’m parenting on my own 24/7 with no break, and I’m exhausted, stressed, and honestly frazzled and grumpy most of the time this isnt going to change. My son said to me the other day, “Mum, you’re always tired,” which really hit me.
I can’t help feeling like if I got regular time to myself like weekends to myself my kids would actually be happier if I wasn’t constantly running on empty. They’d have a mum with more energy, more patience, and who can be more present with them rather than someone who’s just trying to get through the day.
Am I being unreasonable to say missing them wouldnt be a bad thing and could actually be a good thing?