Teens in a 2 bed

[Beachy46]

My husband and I have recently decided to split. It’s all amicable so far and we are getting along great.
We are looking at moving out and buying our own places but it’s looking like I won’t be able to afford a three bedroom in my local area and I have 16yo twin girls.
Has anyone made a two bed work in this situation? If so, how? It’s upsetting me that I may inadvertently push one of them away as we have a brilliant relationship at the moment and I worry that if they don’t have their own rooms they’ll gravitate to their dads. I’m thinking that I would have a sofa bed in the lounge and give them their own room. But how do I make room for my stuff? And what about further down the line? I’m spiralling and upset and would love to hear from anyone further down the line than me

They are old enough for you to have an honest conversation with them, telling them exactly what you’ve posted here.

I know people that where they have a separate downstairs room have turned that into a bedroom. Does require a big enough kitchen diner for example that you can have a sofa in.

Have they said they would mind sharing. My twins shared a room until early 20s and that was in a bunk bed. Is the bedroom that small. If it is I would use a sofa bed in the living room.

One twin is quite reasonable and understanding, and the other is sensitive and is really hurting that we are splitting up - she will be the one that will be reluctant to share and will find it hard.

I’m looking for a 2 bed with a dining room so I can make that into a room, there’s just nothing there right now.

I know they’ll move out in the next few years so a 2 bed will be a good choice for us, it’s just tough. I have huge mum guilt for doing this to them, upending their lives.

I’m going to be honest about my experience. I have standard 3b, box room plus 2 decent rooms, with M and F children. When they were primary aged it was fine. As teens the one with the box room will not ever have friends over, after school, sleepovers, hanging out-never. They do all their socialising at their fathers where they have a bigger room and the house has more space. They are completely understanding about finances and budgets, but I no longer really know their friends or am involved in things as much- their dad who had limited clue about things before is now known by all the friends and friendly with them all - and It kills me.

i like to think If i had my time again i would really get a better home and think ahead to this age -but i bought the biggest house i could afford at the time.

Thank you, that does help in the decision making process.

My emotions are all over the place at the moment and it’s breaking my heart I can’t make this go smoothly for them, that there has to be some challenges coming up for them

Lots of kids share

Why does dad get a 3 bed and not you? Are finances being split fairly?

They probably have different incomes

OP, it’s ok if kids share!