homework when DCs away at ex

[mistressmiggins]

do yours still do their homework?

I sent DS's reading book with ex this weekend - first time I have bothered as decided he has asked to take an interest recently so sent it....

"didnt have a chance" was his response when he dropped them off
why doesnt he understand that when he has DCs for weekend, cleaning the car does NOT take priority over finding 30 mins to sit down & listen to his DS read

I know it seems trivial but it is just typical of my ex who seems to be "fun time" daddy

He doesn't do their reading books, and certainly wouldn't comment in their reading record, but he will get DS to do his homework round there if I send it.

I know exactly where you are coming from with the whole "fun time daddy" thing. I really feel that too.

just annoyed as I gave him the opportunity and thought he would enjoy helping DS by listening but chose to wash car instead and so I am having to listen extra this week

I give up to be honest

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my DS is too young for homework - just reading book - thats why Im disappointed - all he had to do was listen to DS for 15-30 mins at weekend but couldnt manage it

No it doesn't get done, and they are usually returned late on Sunday evening, too late to do homework, or 15 minutes before I have to leave for work. He ignores me asking him to have the dc back home at a decent time. At times I've been tempted to write to the school explaining why the homework hasn't been done and send him a copy.

If a child has homework over the weekend and is at dad's then its resonable to expect dad to make sure it gets done. When they get older they will get more homework so its good that they get into the habit now imo.

When I was step-mum I used to make sure spellings were learnt. Dont think the dad would have bothered though!

I hate to be the voice of contention, but when you only see your kids for one day a week you sometimes want to do more interesting things with them than homework. DP and I used to make sure the kids did their homework but it did used to wind me up to be honest - there's the whole week to do the homework so why does it end up having to be done one the one day we have together? It's not about being "fun time" daddy, it's more about being able to enjoy the limited time together.

Go one, hit me with it...

sorry mamamamama I agree with abouteve - its a habit that needs to be started from outset.
Otherwise when DCs have revision, shall I not send them to their dad's cos they need to be revising

my exH has them from Friday to Sunday afternoon - plenty of time to hear his DS read for 10 mins.
It's a matter of choice & priorities.

and yes I DO think it's fun time daddy as if you dont do the "boring" stuff, I end up with all the "boring" stuff and no time myself to have fun with the DCS.

DP's ex did not, despite her having their DD during the school week, realise that she was a year ahead in reading.
DP always reads to her, her mum does not.

when my DSDs are here, they always bring and do homework.

it's not boring and we've done a lot of projects with the kids... i know a lot about tudor houses!!!!

ds1 in reception, so no homework, just reading books.
boys go to ex Tue night and ds1 usually reads - ex writes in reading record (because ex takes him to school Wed morning he has bookbag & school reading book).
boys also go for 24hrs at w/e, ds1 doesn't take school reading book (or bookbag), he might read something, I suspect he helps with his bedtime story - he does with me.