Does anyone know: When Ex-H new baby is born will the CSA maintainance payments to my children be reduced?

[Tidgypuds]

It just crossed my mind, I have had a brief look on CSA website and all it says is when they calculate the payments, any children living with a non-resident parent are taken into consideration. So it hasnt really answered my question, any info?

can see how that would have been tough herbie and bet you've very glad CSA aren't involved now.

The CSA are total idiots and get it wrong the WHOLE TIME. My DH's exW (she left him btw) was content to let him pay over the odds with no CSA involvement for ages until his pay dropped and he coudn't afford to pay that much any more. (IT programmer - skills getting out of date) Then she went to the CSA and they gave her even LESS than he was paying. She appealed - they upped it - he appealed - they reduced it. Then apparently he owed her loads - he appealed - they said SHE owed HIM - she appealed - and so on. No face to face meetings available apparently. Never the same person on the phone twice. They were unable to produce any explanation of the calculations. Then we had Ds1 and then DS2. Then they said he didn't have to pay her anything. She told CSA to get off the case and he DOES still pay her the same as she was getting BEFORE we had our two kids and I went part time. So after all that hassle and worry the payments haven't changed but we are worse off and she is no worse off.

It seems if you are a responsible absent parent who does want to do your best to help your first family you get hammered and if you are a loser who doesn't want to pay anything then they let you get away with it scott free.

herbietea

I do also know people like your dh ex and they make me so mad when im doing everything i possibly can for my kids.

Im sorry if i misunderstood. ive just found out yesterday exh new wife and kid just been to oz for 3wks and is about to move into a brand new 4bd house!But csa say he hasnt got money to pay to support his kids.

I blame the csa,do they know what they are doing? i think not!

thanks herbietea will try that

herbie - yes you are right, it is not always the man who disappears, its just that this is what has happened to me personally (though i did tell him to leave!)

kittie your ex sounds like a total twat.

i completely agree with marge2 "It seems if you are a responsible absent parent who does want to do your best to help your first family you get hammered and if you are a loser who doesn't want to pay anything then they let you get away with it scott free.
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spot on

Ryobi wrote...
"quite herbie. Its a massive assumption to think its always the mans fault that the relationship broke down"
Indeed it is! My DP's ex ended their relationship and forced him out of the house. Shortly after (a week or so)she was dating an old bf.
DP loves his daughter dearly and has always paid maintenance for her, they had a private arrangement.
A month or so after our DD was born DP's ex demanded DP pay 5 times the CSA assessment.
She went through the CSA and ended up worse off.

Still shes not too hard done by...She gets all and sundry to look after their DD. Shes out socialising every weekend. She gets to go away on holidays to places we cannot afford.

As for us, we're poor but happy!

[ramble]
Do you know 9 times more dads commit suicide than mothers post separation?
A guess losing the partner they loved, the house they lived in and most devastating the children they adored is too much for many decent loving fathers post separation/divorce.

Of course nothing can justify the actions of selfish immature fathers/mothers who do honour their responsibilities.

Any parent who does not put their children first is beneath contempt imo whatever the circumstance [/ramble]