Think i am going to compleatly give up on dating........

[violia]

thought i had met a nice genuine man ... who texted me first thing in the morning and always last thing at night to say goodnight.... and regular through the day...for the last 2 months...

Now havent heard anything for 2 days

should i text him and ask him whats up....
or shall i just leave it...I am wondering if he feels he is always the one to text first...
but i feel if i text him he may just reply casue i have texted him and not beacause he wants to iyswim

TBH it is really frustrating....and not sure if i can be bothered with the whole dating thing... after 3.5 years on my own....

oh i know the feeling..its depressing isnt it?

are there other things you can concentrate on to cheer you up/focus on?

I've decided it's just not worth the bother here too!

I'm making the most of being single now

been ok all day as been out and busy... but kids are now in bed..... and i am on the malibu.....
got work tomorrow so that will be ok....
but i hate this feeling

tbh i know i can be on my own.... and have been asked out before but not gone... with hime it felt like it was kind of meant to be even my friends said i seemed different

arrghghhhhh i dont know whether to text him or not i am to old for this horrible feeling in my tummy.....

but i dont want to seem insane asking him if i have done anything wrong?

I wouldn't be afraid to Text him and ask him if he's ok as you haven't heard from him.That seems reasonable. I was a Lone Parent for 6 years before I met my DH through Dateline.

I met quite a few blokes who liked to "play games" like this. IME anyone who is genuine,and cares about you will have a good explanation.If its really "full of holes" then get rid.Don't lose hope,it is hard,but when the "right one" comes along,you'll know,and there won't be any "playing about" as they wouldn't take the risk that they could lose you.

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ok thanks for the advice everyone....

i have texted him and he has replied saying

sorry not been in touch...had a bad day so been keeping myself to myself x dont worry i will be fine by tomorrow.

do i reply?????

Yeah,why not.Sounds feasible at this stage,just be wary......If it happens again,he is messing you about IMO.

so shall i just say hope you feel better soon...

or just leave it till he contacts me tomorrow?

really happy that it worked out for you sawyer gives us all hope!!!!!

i am now wondering if it is becasue it is fathers day and he wasnt seeing his dd until next weekend?

I'd say,Hope you are feeling better now.

Then leave the "Ball in his court".

I despaired of ever meeting someone special again,but met DH in 2002,married in 2003,had DD1 in July 2004,DD2 in 2006.

Turned my life completely around!

He never messed me about,wasn't scared to "look a fool",told me how he felt,and really cared about my DS,not a "token gesture".

Believe it'll happen and it will......just don't take any Sh!T,you are worth more than that.

If he is a father and has missed out on seeing his children yesterday I would say that sounds very plausible.

It might take a couple of days to get over the emotional blip he has said he's feeling. He might just have wanted to check you're there for him too in some way.

Wait and see how things go today. But don't be afraid to text him first today, and let things get back to how they've been before after that. If you're interested in this guy don't play cool just because you've been hurt before. Let him know you're there for him, and if he doesn't come back then that's different. I bet he felt a whole lot better yesterday knowing you were thinking of him.

Gilly

thanks all for some great advice- things seem to be ok now... but i will remember your opinions and advice for the future

thankyou