Finally going to see a solicitor on monday.

[SparklePrincess]

After 9 1/2 years in an abusive relationship & 6 months of mind numbing hell from my abusive, lying, control freak of an ex h ive finally got a solicitors appointment on monday with someone who specializes in domestic abuse. A very kind lady from a domestic abuse outreach project is coming with me to hold my hand.
Im scared & relieved all at the same time. Ive given lying bastard ex so many chances to behave like a human being & be honest about his situation & hes thrown every one of them back in my face. Hopefully hes about to get a very rude awakening.
Please keep everything crossed for me. Im so scared solicitor will want to start from the beginning. (we already have an agreement, albeit cr@p, but a way out) I dont want to be stuck in this house (that he has a perfect legal right to enter) at his mercy for years if we cant sell up now.

I'm sure they will do their very best to get things exactly right for you. That's what they are paid for after all. Solicitors are generally very supportive and i'm sure you will be fine. Though obviously it's a scary move because it's 'official'. Good luck to you. Hope you feel more positive once you've been.

Well done SparklePrincess, must have taken a lot of courage to get this far. Best of luck.

Thanks. I wish it hadnt come to this.
I dread what he will do next. He uses the children in order to get at me. Hes not interested in them or their feelings & would happily drag them through courts & spend all the money on legal fees so I cannot afford to re house us where we currently live.
My dd has a friends party today which all her friends are going to & she is desperate to go to. Unfortunately its his weekend & id be shocked if he actually put her needs first for once & took her to the party.
Hopefully the solicitors will have some strategies on how to deal with this nasty piece of work.

Good luck it will probably help if you write everything in note form before you go to solictors(Your relationship history)

Good luck. Let us know how you get on. TC. L xx

just reading this thread, if he is abusive he can be excluded from the propery even if he join owns. anyhow let me know the out come of solicitors good luck