My DS told one of his teachers "My mummy and daddy don't live together, but my daddy loves my mummy"

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I was told this today, and am wondering what ex H has been saying to them. I don't want them further confused.

I wouldnt pay too much attention.

They often like to believe such things...

Sometimes we get 'i went to the park with mummy and daddy on saturday' - which is of course, not the case....

I was thinking it could be a case of an over active imagination, but it could also be one of ex H's little helpful talks.

My ex used to say to dc "I want to come back home and live with you but Mummy won't let me" Highly manipulative, foolish, selfish and irresponsible.

Yep. Got this crap myself too. Its not fair and its STUPID.

arh bless, well to be honest it must be better than filling his ead with your mothers a bitch hporrible etc.
my ds other day told everyone in the bank , my mum and dad split up , me mums with someone else now, yikes lol
also my mum and dad have just split up, ds told shop assistant when my mum was asked for hr address. she doesnt love my grandad anymore, she wont ome back home to him any more, bless him, my um went bright pink tho lol

I think the only thing you can do is tell your DS every time the subject comes up that mum and dad don't live together but that mum and dad both love DS. And then change the subject.
I have seen some of your other postings and I know your XP is an arse who won't be reasonable about this (even though he has another girlfriend or soemthing doesn't he?). Are your demented family still piling it on as well? COuld it have been one of them who started your DS on this track, even? Because the one way you might be able to get some sense into them might be pointing out that they are upsetting and confusing DS with their behaviour.

Very very good advice madamez.

Yup same here, Dd2 told me that daddy told her he still loves me.

I think they do it to try and regain some control and get someone, even a small child on their side.

I think he thinks it is his way of making things easier for them, but it just causes confusion.
I do respond by telling them we both love them, and told DS1 that we don't love each other in the way people who are married do (he is 8), but that we are friends & we love both of them very much.
He said "Ohh, but I want you to love daddy"
It's very hard.

My family are still much the same, mamadez, and he spends a lot of time with my parents.
Someone who lives a few doors away, said to me "I am always seeing your ex at your parents house doing jobs with your dad - he is there all the time, but I never see you there. It is like he is their son & you're the ex wife"
That says it all really!

Not sure what they are saying to the boys in my absence, but dad is still in serious denial.

I spoke to ex H about this & he said "ahh, bless him - better they think that than I hate you isn't it?"
I suppose it is better than that, but still feel he shouldn't confuse them like this.

I get that too, my son tells me my daddy loves me but I'm thinking my ex is maybe saying it in the same way I do, when I say mummy loves daddy cos daddy gave me you. I dunno?

Then again my ex has been making passes at me and declaring undying love (which I know he confuses for lust) for the last four and a half years so who knows what he tells my son.