thick as shit part 2, and he's also getting married next week, i am exhausted.

[piratecat]

dd6 asked to see her dad, as mentioned in original thick as shit post last week.

He finally caled back 5 days (last night)later with a proposed visit time.

8 o'clock tomorrow morning, until school time-at 9.

I told dd, she was very happy. As with him gettingmarried next weel, (which is upsetting enough) he is also apparently going on honey moon for 3 weeks. So she would not get to see him for some time, nor he her iyswim.

Ten mins later he rings to say, great, BUT his car is going in for a service today and it may need work. So in case it did he would NOT be able to see dd.

WHY say it in the fucking first place.

Just been confirmed by text that indeed he isn't coming to see her. I have to tell her, but am going to wait till she remembers.

I shall always remember the effort he has gone to here.

I wish he would fuck off and die tbh.

Even so, I can't get used to the idea there will be a new Mrs piratecat.

God, what a bastard, your poor dd. Is she not going to the wedding?

How long have you been divorced? It must be so hard to come to terms with him remarrying, really feel for you. Have you got something nice planned for the wedding day to distract yourself?

I'm sorry piratecat, what a shite.

Hope you meet someone great someday, you sound like you deserve it.

bless you ladies

dd is not going to the wedding, in fact didn't want to from moment she found out. I say found out as noone sat her down and told her about it.

his gf has a kittle girl, and by time my dd knew about the wedding, the little girl already had her dress. this was last year.

not surprising dd has not gone to his house iin 6 or more months.

I checked and checked with dd about the wedding, but she is very upset about it. So I am going to see my mum in spain, as I can't bear to be here. My ex dh 's parents are coming from abroad, and i just have to get away form it all. It was only ten yrs ago that they were coming over, and we all came down here to devon from london for me and ex dh to get married.

wonder if he'll stick to these vows.

Hey, i'm going to spain next week! having a long weekend with the girls to try and get away from the shitty mess i call life!

Where are you going? i'm near marbella.

Definetly a good idea to be away while its going on.

Don't get how your ex can treat his own daughter like that. He is a scumbag and you both deserve better. xx

i also went away when my ex remarried last year.... we went to isle of wight and had a great time

near alicante. I intend to drink copious amounts of vino, and get a tan.

Saying that, i am finding this all a bit surreal, and if it wasn't for the anti depressants, i might well crack. Or cry, I can't cry and I thik thats why i have been feelign illthe past few weeks too. I have the migraine from hell today.

I must say tho, in a way i am glad I don't have to face him 2morro. I just didn't want to see him. Like what his hair is like, how he looks for her just before the big day. To me he is still 'mine' iyswim'.

Its easier to blank. but maybe not healthy.

I think you should have told her as soon as you knew, even though I can understand why you are hoping she'll forget and you won't have to break the news to her.

I'm sure she's going to remember in the morning, especially given you said she was so happy about it when you told her. Not only will she be disappointed and upset, but then you're packing her off to school with little chance to work through her feelings or give her the support and comfort she will no doubt need

oh well that makes me feel like a great mum now doesn't it.

It's not you that let her down, it's her dad, but you're the one that has to pick up the pieces unfortunately.

I'm just saying think about what's best for her, not what might be easier for you. As I said I can understand why you don't want to tell her and are hoping she's forgotten. No-one likes to see their children hurt

wel she just hasn't mentioned it at all. I think she just knew he would let her down again.

one of my reasons that i couldn't bare to tell her lastnight was becuase she had had a lovely day on the beach with her class.

This week she has not gone to sleep till 10 or even 11, for crying overh im.

last night she was so bushed i just knew she needed a good sleep. He let me know he couldn't make it justbefore lights out.

She has bee n very subdued this week, and very quiet today. I was wondering if they had done father's day cards at school, but there doesn't seem to be one in her bag. Perhaps they don't do them in yr 1? Tho Iam sure they did mother's days ones this year

Well i must go now and see what she'sn up too, gone very quiet in her room.