Jealousy

[LemonSlushy]

I’m so jealous of people that have loving partners, I know I shouldn’t be and jealousy isn’t a good trait but I can’t help it. I watch families on SM and women with loving husbands and partners and feel so jealous of them that my life ended up this way, I didn’t want to be a single mum, I hate it. How do you get over the feelings of jealousy? 🥲 I know you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors etc but same goes for us single parents and I’m so sad my life is this way.

That’s perfectly fine but you still need to find a way to carve out alone time. I wasn’t thrilled but my counsellor suggested doing it during work hours (ie we get 3 small breaks, so condensing them into 1 longer break that I could use to go to the nearest cafe and read, relax, etc).

Thank you. It’s nice when people understand, yea life with a partner is just better and easy. We are not meant to be alone. I follow a few influencers on SM and they have massive houses, loads of kids, nice husband. Hard not to feel jealous.

Thanks I’m not sure that would be enough to change how I’m feeling. I feel lonely sat anywhere on my own, even with my kids I hate going to places alone, out to eat etc

You need to curate what you consume on social media. There’s no point in following people with lives that will only make you jealous, try to find people more aligned with your reality and that will help you feel less down.

How long have you been a single parent? Maybe you still need more time to feel settled on your role. I was okay with holidays, days out etc, but things like doctors appointments made me incredibly nervous, it never got better.

I’ve been a single parent for years, I actually didn’t mind at first it’s the longer it’s gone on the harder I’m finding it and I’m aware I’m getting older and unlikely to meet a partner now. I like following them I find their lives interesting. I’ve followed a few single mums but didn’t enjoy watching them. I kind of like looking at how other people live, lives I can only dream of. Perfect husband, wonderful kids, beautiful home.

I think feeling jealous is fine but don't let it consume you OP. You have to adapt and make the most of it. Ive been a single parent since DC was 3. Its not what I planned but it is where I am now. I holiday by myself with DC. We are doing a long haul next year we do it almost every year. Nobody else with take my child on holiday so things like this and kid activities are all left to me as DC father does F all!

I would drop a day at work in the week and find something to do for yourself!

You can't believe everything you see on SM. People who are genuinely happy don't really post that much or the one who do are curating their SM for other reasons: to stay relevant, for social dynamics or for their children to look like theyre in a happy family. I just would not bother feeling jealous. What you see is not always what's there in real life.

I guess.. I just think life is better, easier and happier in a relationship. We are not suppose to be raising children alone.

I guess, the way I see it is, would I choose to be single if I wasn’t a lone parent? Absolutely not. I am single due to limited free time and not able to have a relationship but would I ever choose this? No.

It's not single parenting though if there's no co-parenting. It's double parenting and it's exhausting!

In my 10 years of single parenthood, I can say wholeheartedly that 90% of available men are a disappointment in one way or another, some more than others.