Want to leave children with him

[Blues6567]

My ExH is a bully. Court next week - accusing me of assaulting my son, lying, breaking co parenting arrangements.

I often want to send them to him and just disappear

You want to send your kids to a horrible bully?!

I’m sure the op doesn’t mean it and is just at the end of her tether and this is probably a cry for help, sorry op I have not been in this situation so I’m unsure what to advise but bumping in the hope someone else can help

Get a restraining order and ask for all contact to be via a secure app only. If he then tries to contact you by phone / in person then he’s breached the court order. It’ll give you some peace

Hello, I don't have any advice but often feel similarly, so I'm just replying to let you know that you are not alone. It often feels relentless, like the only way it will end is if he dies. I have a non molestation order against my ex, which he has been consistently breaching for months. He was finally arrested and charged last week and all he was given was a £50 fine. He has moved on to abusing my mum by sending awful emails to her work in attempt to get her sacked, as well as made up awful lies about me throughout the court process, which has been going on for over a year. I don't really know why I'm telling you this. It's so isolating though isn't it. If you want to talk about it more I am listening. I guess all I can say is just keep trying to get through each day and remember that you are doing what is best for your children, even if nobody believes you.

Give him the children and be done with it all. If he fucks up with them you get them back, if he does well by them, then you have spared yourself years of angst.

So think back to his good points that you thought were great that having children with him was a great idea

I’ll be honest I can see your point.