His word against mine in Court..............

[talie101]

Exh is starting Court proceedings despite my suggestion of starting Mediation again...he says it did not work last time...we went ONCE!

I have several text messages to him on my mobile asking him to meet me to discuss contact etc...does anyone know if it's just ok to write these down on paper...surely I could make things up? I cannot seem to get them to print out despite having a cable from phone to PC...it just prints a code out unless I print them individually and on separate sheets of paper (there are quite a few and some only a sentence long which means an awful waste of paper!)

Otherwise, how do I prove that I am the one that has been trying to discuss contact arrangements with him that he just ignores, but has turned it around in his Solicitors letter saying he is the one and I'm refusing!

Fed up with everything...he refused overnight access last weekend to go and watch the rugby, sees them in a weeks time for the weekend, then goes on holiday for two weeks...meaning they dont get to see him for four weeks...Surely if he was really concerned about the lack of time spent with his children, he would fit the holiday in the two week period he does not see the children (ie between access visits?) to enable him to still see them?

Write out the text mesaages on paper and keep your mobile turned of in court but with you.

Write down the dates that he refused access, and that this is access being offered on a regular basis that he is tuning down - opposed to you just phoning and asking if he wants the children today and him saying no. Explain that you are trying to get regular overnight access in place and are not able to achieve regular overnight acess and please can the court inforce that the dc have access to their father on a regualr basis

Then write down what access arangments you think are suitable for the children i.e. every second weekend from 3.30pm Friday afternoon - Sunday 7pm and every Tuedays evening from 3.30pm - 7pm.

Remember you are not going to court to prove anything - you are going to set up regualr contact with the children.

TBH if you go in with this sort of plan the court will not be pleased as it shows you want the contact, it shows that you want to sort things out and it achieves very little. Courts do not like having their time wasted.