I have 2 wonderful ASD sons (5&6) with a 14 months age gap. Their POS father left when the youngest was 6mo and not too long after I met a new partner who raised them as his own pretty much from then on. We moved to his home town, he bought us a lovely house to live in, a dog. We had a lovely, but fairly stressful busy life. Then one day 3 mos ago he left out of blue (after petty argument) no communication apart from a letter to say he was depressed and solicitors correspondence telling us to get out of his house within a month, and leave behind absolutely all the belongings and my car that he had bought. He snuck back in the house shortly after leaving to take the dog with him.
we have been broken into pieces and are trying to rebuild ourselves, amidst the struggles of everyday life. My youngest son is more severely ASD and is incredibly hard work, my oldest son is really struggling with the grieving process. We speak about ‘papa’ most nights, and he recently asked me if I can go and find him another father because he misses his papa and he knows he’s not coming back now. (He does see his real dad EOW but real dad cancels quite often).
it’s such a mess. I just wanted to vent here. Him asking me to find him another father just made my heart bleed for this poor little boy who has been through so much sadness so early on in life. I will obviously be single for many years to come now, so as not to put them at risk again. But wow, I’ve never known a loss like it. It’s like he just died one day, with the dog, and now we have to lose our home and many of our possessions. I’m grieving, the kids are grieving and we feel like we are drowning sometimes.
thanks for reading