My "quicky" divorce came through yesterday.....

[mistressmiggins]

only taken 2.5 yrs even though he admited adultery!
its taken us 1.5 yrs to sort out the finances as he's been dragging his heels.
It has been pointed out he may have taken so long so he's not free to marry OW...work collegues have suggested I txt OW congratulating her on the fact she can now marry him

I was a little sad yesterday at the finality of it all BUT good thing was DD (4) had her trial afternoon at school which took my mind off it.

To all those lone parents just starting out, it is hard & you have down days/weeks BUT there is light at the end of the tunnel. Remember that although you have lost your H, you still ahve your children and they need you more than ever.

my children are delightful and I relish every moment with them....

hugs to you all

I am just starting down this road

H has also admitted adultery but seems in a big rush to get the divorce sorted, i am the one dragging my heels as i still can't quite get my head round it all.

Good to hear from someone who has come out the other side and is able to sound positive!!

Congratulations, all the best for the future.

Hi MistressM, just gate-crashing the lone P section to offer congrats/comisserations/hugs/manly pst on the shoulder/tea/gin - whatever you need really.

Keep smiling, see you at the Swan in a few months time.

Hi Slouchy - everyone is welcome in any area of MN - just posted it here to show other lone parents there is life after divorce!

hope we arrange a meet up soon

mistress have a divorce party don't text the OW cause it will make you look 'bovvvered', you are free of that man so rejoice.

In the day its like a stick to the heart, but remember what he looked like sitting in the toilet having a s....,now that pleasure belongs to his new OW, that will put your mind out of it. After that your outlook on life will slowly change, just take it easy!

i will be entering the whole divorce thing soon too even though i still love him and dont want to be divorced.

Good to hear there is light at the end of the tunnel, i need to move on with my life and forget about him.

My solicitor has tried to put me off going for a divorce, but as soon as the house is signed over that is what I want to do, solicitor said it is so much hassle if you have kids under 16yrs and it has to go to court???

I remember when it all started MM (your first thread). How far you've come! Well done you. I know it's sad but at the same time so completely liberating. Said it before and I'll say it again... I'm proud of you woman!

Enjoy your new freedom. Have a happy & loving life

good post.

I didn't want to be divorced, i put it off for ages, until time had passed and i felt more ready for it. He kept on at me to divorce him for about a year.

I was devastated at the prospect, but in time each stage was ok, and inevitable. The thought of it happening and being a reality wasmuch worse than the actaul final bit after each stage iyswim. As, no, he didn't suddenly change into a nice version of himself, he was still selfihs,a nd putting me and d thru hell. So I mourned the events, the nisi, the absolute as they came, but whenit was done, he was still a knob, and nothing had changed.

For a while I felt sad, but also a bit relieved that it was over, and hadn't sent me down the path to self destruction, or worse.

I am now waiting for the felings of dread over him getting re married to come and go, it's in two weeks time.

I am a newly single mom and about to be divorced... Dh started 'dating' someone else while we were married.. although to this day does not concede he cheated

I am also moving to London in the fall with my ds for a fresh start. But I think it will be a long long time (if ever) before I trust a man again.

Well done to those of you who have survived it all. If you can help or suggest anything, please do. Sorry if I'm messing 'thread', not done this before. I am soon to be divorced (husband filing), have felt so lonely in the marriage for so long, and had tried for years to discuss, change things, but it was never his problem. Then after a few friends and family passed away in last few years, had 'lightbulb moment', thought yes I can change things, and told him its finally over. I know its right thing, while we young enough to find happiness again. But he won't leave, wants the house, the kids, all his inheritances, just wants me to leave with virtually nothing, even though he had nothing when we met, it was my house etc, that got us started. I'm so scared of eveything now, and solicitor keeps saying stay, don't leave, but so is his.
All I want is a fair share, not to ruin him, just so we can both have the kids at times, and live peacefully, any ideas b great, xx