Hello All
I regularly read threads, but never post, so here we go. I would like to gather some perspective. I have recently ended a 4 yr relationship with father of child. Child is now 2.5 yrs. In our household I went back to work 4 days (after 6 months) and then looked after child throughout weekend, except Sundays, when we were all off together. I paid for everything (Mortgage&bills, car and full childcare) with him just paying for half of council tax, gas/electricity, and occasionally paid for nursery when he had money. I earn a little more, but not much more due to being part time. He was not present during the pregnancy and refused to move in and give up his flat. The relationship has been awful from start to finish (lack of trust, poor communication and very little caring on his side). I finished it for good this time and prior to this a contact arrangement (through solicitors) was agreed prior to this ending so he will see child once a week, and currently lives now with his parents. Yes there has been domestic violence. Now I guess I am looking for help to see what peoples opinions are, as I felt constantly gaslight that the problem was me and nothing to do with the fact that I was doing everything and he didn't really care (I suspect true narcissism). Also whats the going recommendations about paying childcare arrangements when parents separate. Please help. Also how I communicate with someone like this, I fear he will manipulate his own child.