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DD (14yo) doesn't want see her dad anymore

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Iamvictorio · 05/10/2025 07:58

My DD (14yo) doesn't want to see her dad anymore. We are in the middle of enforcement family court proceedings and father is so desperate trying to force her to say "I am manipulating her" before the next hearing, that in the past visits she has come home crying and emotionally disturbed. I support her in her decision as I am extremely concerned with her mental health (there are other serious issues in their relationship also, due to father's controlling behaviour). I already sent my position statement to the court for the next hearing; due to the new development of the situation, should I write another one?
Thank you.

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Woompund · 05/10/2025 14:12

Iamvictorio · 05/10/2025 09:31

How the courts deal with cases like this, when teen wants to stop all contact despite a CAO in place? Do you have any experience with it?

Sometimes they might get social services involved by ordering a section 37 report and ask social services what they can provide to support the relationship between the child and father. Or cafcass may recommend something if they don't involve social services. They might recommend the father writes her letters or sends cards to initiate contact. This may take time but if your DD remains steadfast they can't actually order her to see him at the age of 14. If there is a guardian and she doesn't agree with the guardian's recommendation she can actually request to be made party to the proceedings and have her own legal representation at that age.
What the court will almost never do is shrug and say well ok she doesn't want to see her dad and that's that. They will always expect professionals and parents to try to repair the relationship, no matter how fucked it has been by the abusive parent's actions.

Igmum · 06/10/2025 10:27

Iamvictorio · 05/10/2025 08:12

Thank you for your input. I have the dates and statement from her psychologist. I will prepare a supplemental statement today.

If the psychologist is prepared to give a statement then that would be stronger - but even if not, the courts should listen to your DD. Good luck

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