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Is my Ex a narcissist?

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Shelley565 · 22/09/2025 20:16

So me and my ex share a nearly 5 year old daughter. He is pretty disrespectful towards me, in that he won't stick to any arranged days to have our daughter. He frequently leaves for weeks, up to a month at a time for work/holidays then comes back and has her for a few days and doesn't consider the impact this has on our daughter and me. He's argued about paying child maintenance, apparently i don't deserve any help financially..
I work hard at my two jobs, and he doesn't care If I can arrange childcare or not. I have to accept what he says and when it happens,, i have to bend to fit in whatever he wants or he tells people im keeping his daughter from him. Obviously I don't want our daughter to not see her dad, so I allow it. But I feel like a real pushover. Hes turned my friends against me and keeps accusing me or beibg all the things he is!! He says im jealous of him.. I'm not. He says all our friends are against me.. I don't think that they are. Its crazy! I'm in no way jealous of him, infact glad to be rid of him!
He doesn't seem to have any empathy and now he is so rude and disrespectful towards me. Yet I do atleast 75% of the parenting whilst he swans around doing as he pleases. He often won't give me dates for when he's leaving or coming back. So I know nothing. He's difficult over everything, and I feel like it's a punishment towards me. Like he wants to me to suffer.. but really his daughter is suffering more than I am. Though it does make me feel stressed and sad. He lives his life however he wants and I can't plan anything alone. Now he's got a new girlfriend of a few months, he's moving in with her. Now he's even worse of a parent than before. Apparently his girlfriend had a sore throat so our daughter couldn't go to their house.. like my god.. a sore throat!!! She has no children so clearly has no idea.. gunna be non stop sore throats now its heading into winter time with a chikd at school.
He was nasty to me at home, particularly when I was pregnant. He seemed even more vicious, despite him wanting the baby.. he just seemed to despise me.
Hes also covered in tattoos, loves himself, thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread, to the point where I'm apparently jealous of him.. which I'm not. Completely delusional. Does this sound like a narcissist?

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Mysticguru · 23/09/2025 07:11

Yes.

Get help through therapy to get your boundaries in place and get this dick out of your head.
Stop letting him walk all over you and your daughter.
He'll probably be an absent dad if he's taken up with with a new GF. But at the moment he gets to you through your DD.

TickingKey46 · 24/09/2025 10:12

My ex husband was like this. What i would say is that it's a game to them, he is deffo getting some kind of kick out of the interaction he has with you!! How much he does or doesnt care about the child is second to what he's getting emotionally from treating you this way!!
If your not careful he will have this hold over you for years. I would get a court order which says which day's he can have the child. Only communicate with him via email except when he has her and get child maintenance involved. Then totally step back.
If he's away or chooses not to have her, thats fine, just keep to the order.

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