Hi everyone 👋🏽
I posted here previously regarding my situation with my now ex ( yes I moved) and it feels great to be free of his toxicity.
Obviously we have DD, but I have prevented him from seeing her. I just can't co parent until there is something in place. I'm even considering going for custody as he is just awful.
He knows where I stay now and has messaged prior to trying to come collect DD, but I have not answered the door. WA are well aware of the situation. I had to contact the police because he now doesn't message and just turns up demanding to see DD.
I haven't made a statement because I need to go down the civil route and I can't handle the stress amongst trying to return early next year to work and also most of all caring for DD.
It's been great not being corrected by him constantly. He even put up a post on his WhatsApp status saying women need to be 'corrected'... delusional !!!
He also sent me message demanding to see DD and demanding a paternity test! He is just so nasty . He knows fine he is her father , he just wants to pay nothing.
All this time he has not dropped off one nappy or any formula - nothing !!!! I guess this won't look good on him?
When I left I wasn't allowed her passport and he wouldn't even give me her pram seat for converting from basinette to pram seat. He is just so mean!!!
I have since applied to CM because it's really expensive on my own. Also had to apply for UC etc.
Remember he made a fuss about the child benefit when we lived together demanding it in his name saying he would pay it into my bank account. He really is shameless.
The day I left he said nothing and just shut the door on me. He made me move all my stuff last and pick up DD last. He is not aware of the law otherwise he could have held onto her. Thank god I got to leave with my daughter because I would rather die than be without her.
He keeps posting whatsapp status' , but I just ignore them. All to get my attention I guess. The only message I ever sent to him was a reply to him asking to see her after I had moved. I replied saying no and detailed all his abuse and lies to the doctor and also how he turned my mother against me.
He even stopped me on the street and filmed me taking my bins and saying things like " here she is , she's not letting me see my daughter ". I guess he wanted a reaction from me - he got nothing.
If he had the right approach then he would be civil and ask for videos of his daughter , offer money or ask to meet in a park or something, but no. This is the man that tried to get me to sign papers before I left saying that he will have the child 50% of the time ( all to avoid paying CM) DD is nearly 6 months and the good heart in me feels sad for him that he has missed so many beautiful milestones.
Also ( he turned my mother against me with lies) tried to get me to sign to take my daughter abroad to see my parents. I played along ( NO WAY would I allow that). He refused to take us abroad to see my parents and would only go if my parents gave him some money towards the flights, but now he is able to go.... All to hurt me.
I have continued to see WA and another lady . They all know what I went through.
It's a sad situation , but my daughter keeps me going . She is my everything ♥️
I'm glad to be away from the man that was planting in everyone's heads that I had PND.
He tried to get me fully dependent on him.
I really just want to go for custody now.
Do I really have to allow my daughter even to spend a night at his..
Sorry for the rambling...
If I have missed anything then I will update you.
Thanks for all the support here because living with him was hell.
I do have moments where I feel sad for DD that she doesn't have a dad around and how am I going to explain it to her when she starts asking questions. It is painful. I'm seeing a counsellor every Wednesday. Alot to process.