Why do people try to guilt trip

[HelloKittyFan]

Why do people try to guilt trip you for wanting/ needing some space?

I am a lone parent, I’ve raised my children entirely alone for almost a decade, I was venting on another site about how I’d love to just have ONE day to myself with zero responsibilities and I got “you will regret saying this one day! Mine are grown up and I would give anything for them to be kids again!” It’s ONE day! In 10 years! I’m not asking for them to disappear forever, why is a mum not allowed to have one day to herself? Don’t want to even do anything fancy or go anywhere just would be nice to have one day to myself. I want to do a massive clear out and I struggle to do that with the kids here, I struggle to keep up with the house work so one day a month would be lovely to just have a massive clean. Anyone else experienced people saying this?

Yes I know what you mean when I express that perfectly natural desire to have a bit more time to myself people seem uncomfortable. It's been 13 years and I have barely been able to have a night out, it's the constant juggling, although my son can be left for a bit am constantly conscious of have I been gone too long etc

Yes, in certain circles there's a perception that you must give your all for your precious baybees at all times and ignore your own needs. You see it on here too, sometimes. It's extremely harmful for a mother, for her kids and for women as a whole and shouldn't be entertained.

thanks both. I love my children but honestly I could do with one day I’ve spent every single day with them for 10 years, don’t know why it’s shameful to want a break!

You tend to find its the ones with an army of help and support who are fond of trotting out this old line.

When ds was younger I would take a day off to catch up with decluttering etc. Otherwise it wd have never got done.

Some people are just miserable sods who like to find fault in others, or pretend that they know better/are wiser than others.

The internet seems to attract them.

I’ve found that in real life they are less common, thank god.

It’s not unreasonable for a mum to want a day to herself.

I've not quite had this but I've always found it odd when people can't be without their kids for a day. I absolutely love my child and I absolutely love a child free day too. It's important! Take no notice of them OP.

When mine were younger I went out one Saturday a month clubbing
Not to get drunk, not to 'pull' but just to dance
Sometimes I met friends sometimes I went alone but those nights were my time
I'm 60 now and might re start, I'm sure my dog and cat will be fine 🤣

That sounds like a great idea.

I can’t dance really anymore - just shuffle - but I used to love to dance and I’d go back to it in a second if I could.

Hello I'm a new Nona to be have been a single parent from when my only daughter was six months fiance left me with our baby mortgage changed his number met girl at his work brout my daughter up on my own, my daughter informed me she is pregnant I'm so excited at least I was she had told me not too buy the baby anything unless I go through her I feel very hurt ! am I wrong to feel this way, I have a lot of stress stage four cancer baby not even here and I'm being give order's should I step away and let her and her husband get in with it