any body got kids to more than one dad? violence

[hayley2u]

i had a ds when i was 20 yrs old i had ben with dp for 6 years, but after getting prgnant he told e he did not want the baby n we split up, he did get used to idea and we tried again in our relationship, but in the end we split, he has carried on seeing my ds. it took me years to trust a man again and then i met my now dp, he was lovely we wee together for 2 ab half yrs, we set up home and got engaged and i got pregnant with dd who is now 8 months, when i was pregnant he changed and became violent towards me and then i lost one baby at 4 months(dd was a twin). he stayed out all time and i left till baby was born , when dd was born we tried again but volence has continued and i am so not hapy, but i have my kids to two different fatheres, is it wise just 2 give up, and what are your opinions on women with babys to different men, although both wre long term relationships i feel bit down about it, i really still believe in finding my man of dreams an have family but all shattered now

Children to different men isnt a problem and is no one's business, sorry you have had a rough time, I think that you should put it at the back of your mind about meeting someone for now and just concentrate on you and your children, a guy who is meant for you won't be bothered if you had 4 children by 4 different men its you they would be concerned with

thanks tinker, thats whati ntend to do but just as only 26 hoping i will one day like. i am happy to be single as can concentrate on me kiddies , just lke some hope lol

Don't ever tolerate violence against your person. You never know if one day they'll deliver the blow that kills you. I know that sounds alarmist,but you really never know. He clearly cannot control his own body, so how do you know that one day he just won't be able to stop?

There are lovely men in this world. Men who would treat you like a princess if you treat
them with as much kindness, tolerance and respect. Nobody needs to settle for crap because they chosen unwisely twice. You can choose again. But make sure you know the signs to look out for so you don't choose another idiot.

thanks i know i feel awful about the whole thin, he always tells me its me whos pushed him to hurt me but i am seeing the light at end of tunnel my kids are the most gorgeous children and just did not want them stigmitesed from my mistakes,
what hurt the most is though i had my barriers up n only put down and get hurt, but when i have had a ;ovely man i pushedhim away for keeping them up, so cant win.