Help!!! No sleep

[Newmum395]

I don’t really know if I’m looking for advice or to know I’m not alone. It feels like everyone I know that has a kid the same age as mine manages to get them to sleep most if not all night. My DS is 12 months.

he’s progressively getting worse when it comes to sleeping. Often he’s not upset when he’s awake but this can be for up to 4 hours in the middle of the night. Other times he cries when I put him down after getting him to sleep again and it’s just a vicious circle. And if he’s not up hes tossing and turning. He also ends up in the bed with me every night (his dad and I are together but he works over seas most of the time).
I feel so alone and overwhelmed. I find myself getting short with DS and feeling so guilty when I tell him to JUST GO TO SLEEP.
He’s such a loving happy boy all through the day, we do plenty, he naps, he eats a good amount.
again I don’t know is this post for advice or for a rant!

Not that it's going to help, but split nights is a totally normal thing to do - apparently it dates back to caveman times, when it was useful to get up for an hour or 2 in the deepest, darkest bit of the night (restoke the fire and chase off the predators maybe?).

Anyway, DS1 did this. The only way I survived was to have him next to me in his own bed - I has the biggest pile of blankets and duvets rolled up next to his bed. He woke, I unrolled the bed and dozed next to him until we both dropped off again. You could equally bring him to you - bedsharing or his own mattress next to you.

Sleep training didn't work for us, but you could look into it, and see if you want to try. So, for us it was just about maximizing sleep for me.

Good luck - he'll either stop doing it, or not require you when he does wake at sone point. If you don't work, nap when he does during the day (don't attempt to cook/clean etc in these windows, just rest or sleep - toddler just has to do the chores with you).

Subscribe to Empathy Bliss on YouTube. I have listened to their sleep hypnosis session before sleep every day. It has helped me a lot. I will help you too. You can even write to the psychologist. She is nice