So my son achieved fantastic grades at a-level but were not enough to secure his first choice uni choice. He had no back up plan in place. The unconditional offer he received wasn’t what he wanted and he didn’t want to go through clearing. I suggested he accept the offer and defer for a year, whilst he explores other options. He wants to book holidays. Not travelling just package holidays “Barbados is looking great”. He works 20 hours a week minimum wage, has a car, an expensive mobile phone package and is living rent free. He wants to explore apprenticeship options but doesn’t want to apply until after Christmas. When I point out that he isn’t the only one in this position and that competition is likely to be high. I am told I am being unreasonable and pushy. I am not allowed to express any sort of opinion that contradicts his and he states that I have said all these things that I know I haven’t but fit his narrative in making me sound like I am being pushy. I honestly don’t think I have been, I could have been. I could have sent tens of apprenticeships to him to apply for but I haven’t. He has no relationship with his father, and it is left to me to be advisor, shoulder to cry on, cook, tidy up after him as a mum I know it’s part of the job description. I have no one to stand in my corner, no one that can say hey that’s a bit over the top Sooz or Sooz you are right there. I just have to take his entitled attitude that the world owes him a living and I am just putting obstacles in his way. God I know this sounds like a pity party and not really first world problems. But I am finding his attitude harder and harder to live with.