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LucyLLou79 · 22/08/2025 00:54

My ex and I are poles apart with parenting and despite my best efforts to try and find common ground, and encourage good parental communication it doesnt happen.

This weekend my ex has went away all weekend when he was scheduled to have our 16yr old son. He told him he could either see if he could stay Roth me and if not then just stay at his house all weekend on his own. His dads house is a little further away and he doesn't have friend network there. I personally am not comfy with him staying there, but do I just accept this given its on his dads watch?

Also I feel slightly manipulated here by my ex as the fact my don asked my to stay at mine suggests to me he would rather not stay at his dads. Therefore with my own views on this and him asking I now feel pressured into him staying with me this weekend, and I had plans. In my head I eish my ex could have asked me if I could accommodate this and if not sort alternative plans his don was confused with without me bring involved. Am I being unreasonable?

I know this may sound selfish but I need my boundaries and me space to support my mental health of what feels like solo parenting

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Tipeetommeey · 22/08/2025 05:39

At 16 your ex doesn’t neee to discuss it with you. He face your son 2 perfectly reasonable options and as a 16 year old there’s no reason for you to change your plans if DS is home. He’s old enough to be on his own

LucyLLou79 · 22/08/2025 08:02

Yeah no I get that but should he have asked him to ask me. As I was then made to feel guilty by my son who wouldn't accept it didnt suit me as I had plans. And why would my son ask me unless he wasnt comfy/didn't want to stay at his dads.

I can accept i just need to suck it up if my ex leaves him alone at 16

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