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For the 1st time since we split I'm hating it

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mypandasgotcrabs · 30/05/2008 09:11

Just feeling really sorry for myself this morning & really lonely. Think it's cos I've cocked up with my potential new man & now even considering getting back with xp just cos I don't wanna be on my own. I just feel so bloody lonely.

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allgonebellyup · 30/05/2008 09:27

its not that bad being on your own!!!

please dont be one of these people that think unless you have a partner your life is pretty much worthless.
i have been on my own for a year, and had my heart very very broken, lost too much weight,couldnt sleep etc.
But there is no point being with someone just for the hell of having a partner.

Why dont you learn to enjoy single life? see your friends ALL the time, go out as much as you can, have a laugh, and you will learn to love it..

Pinkchampagne · 30/05/2008 09:29

Oh dear, sorry to hear you are feeling a bit low. I get moments of feeling down sometimes too (never that bad I would consider getting back with ex H though!!), but they happen less often now.

How long have you been on your own?

missingtheaction · 30/05/2008 09:32

(((hugs))). It will pass. and OOH a potential new man - not all of us get as far as having the opportunity to cock that up!

Pinkchampagne · 30/05/2008 09:33

Agree with AGBU (again! I often agree with her advice!), see friends where you can, enjoy watching trashy TV & having the remote all to yourself etc! I quite enjoy it most of the time!

I do have a partner now, but only see him once or twice a week as I work in the day & he works evenings, so I am still on my own the majority of the time. I quite enjoy my independence now. (have been living alone a year)

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mypandasgotcrabs · 30/05/2008 09:38

This is the 1st time I've felt even slightly like this. We split in October and I've been loving every second!

Even with PNM I didn't want things to be too serious for quite a while. Just think messing that up there is what's upset me more than anything.

And I'm hungry & tired which never helps matters.

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Pinkchampagne · 30/05/2008 09:44

Well you're doing very well to only have had one down moment in 7 months! we all get them from time to time, and the experience with the new man has probably knocked you a little, which is understandable.

Organise a night out on the town with friends if you can - that is sure to cheer you up, and you may find a new love interest!

allgonebellyup · 30/05/2008 12:09

yeah it sounds like you are doing well actually, i do have really down days sometimes where i can barely leave the house but then the next day i feel fine!

i do get lonely too but i have recently started reading loads again (i love books!), decided i would love to be an english teacher next year, and am going to start piano again now my dd is having lessons.

onwards and upwards! im only 29 so that cant just be it for me, can it? or for you?!!

allgonebellyup · 30/05/2008 12:10

and you are only 28, we have our whole lives ahead of us!

Pinkchampagne · 30/05/2008 12:17

Yes, you youngsters! I am an old bird of 35, and I managed to pull a good one!!

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mypandasgotcrabs · 30/05/2008 20:08

lol well none of us are exactly past it are we!

Am trying to get some friends together for tomorrow night as xp has the boys this weekend. No joy as yet though.

I'm also hoping to start up gymnastics again soon. Will be good for when I do pull a man. I've just moved and the regional gymnastics centre is only across the road, so an opportunity not to be missed I think. Just gotta make some friends to get a babysitter!

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mypandasgotcrabs · 30/05/2008 20:12

Oh and should add that I'm feeling a little more upbeat this evening (seeing as that was the reason I came on here!). Had a good day at work, still not heard from PNM, but hey that's how it goes. Just extra gutted aboutt his one as we've been friends for a few years and he's a lovely, lovely bloke. And definately got any silly thoughts about getting back with xp out of my head. Just trying to decide if I have the balls to go up to my new local on my own.

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Pinkchampagne · 30/05/2008 20:44

You sound much happier - good for you!

I have funny down days here & there - infact yesterday wasn't one of my better days, but I put a lot down to the awful rainy weather!!

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mypandasgotcrabs · 31/05/2008 18:06

Well yeah, just a blip. PNM made me sweat all day yesterday, but we chatted last night & are back to normal now, so all good there & my best friend is coming over soon with a bottle of wine!

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Pinkchampagne · 31/05/2008 18:18

Oh well, all sounds pretty good then!

I, on the other hand, am a right miserable old cow atm!!

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mypandasgotcrabs · 01/06/2008 09:00

Oh no! What's up?

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Pinkchampagne · 01/06/2008 13:24

Just a bit hormonal I think! Full on period, which brings my mood right down, and feeling very woe is me about everything! It will pass though!

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