hes being unreasonable bout access

[somebody]

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Sweetie I am quite glad you are leaving him. He hits you and he lies. He will be probably granted bi-monthly access if you don't mention the fact that he has hit you, if you do mention that, it will probably be less.

You might be happier at your parents for a bit it will give you chance to recharge. Do they live a long way away?

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Somebody, I think your father needs to assess where his loyalties lie. It is not unreasonable for you to expect some loyalty from your family, particularly when your ex is violent. I would not want to allow a man who is violent to spend any time at all with my children and I can't imagine my mother being happy to see her precious grandchildren spending time with a violent ex. Does your Dad know your ex has been violent towards you?

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Sorry back now, how are you doing? Have you received any advice from citizens bureau/

By the way my dad used have dinner and plates thrown at him cos he made comments abouts about the dinner! My dh has had things throw at him (admittedly a tea towel, all perfectly acceptable (pissed off dh) cos we do lose our cool. DH in fact had a glass of wine poured over him in a restaurant once - can't remeber why. This is a bit different from being hit! So you throwing the phone at him is a different kettle of fish.

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How are you doing today? Glad I made you feel better, i just come from a family of 'strong willed' females(that's the polite term). My aunt used her car key to improve the paint work of her the boyfriends car cos he pissed her off - they're now married. As i said losing your cool and doing something childish like throwing a phone, throwing a plate or pouring wine over someones head is within the acceptable margin (not sure about the car key thing!) Hitting and being abusive for two years is not within the acceptable margin. Is your dad being a bit less neutral? Have you got any advice on maintenance?

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Glad you're getting the support needed from your family now. Alsao glad you're getting adviice from the solicitors. Good luck at your mums. Take care