I'm a divorced mum of two teenagers aged 13 and 14, their father is my ex-husband, and our divorce was finalised just this year.
I did go on to have two relationships, both long-term, after my marriage, one for a year and one for 3 years, where we lived together too. Thought my last relationship was my forever relationship, then he blindsided me with an ending I hadn't seen coming and didn't want. Turns out he has long-term commitment issues and is known to just up and leave relationships hes been in for a few years (his brother and sister in law told me his patterns when he left me). I've now been on my own for a year and a half, and found it hard to move on from him as I was so in love with him, and nothing makes that love go away completely, even though we no longer have contact. He is handsome, someone my kids loved, and I loved everything about him, and there were no issues in our relationship or changes between us. I didn't have a clue he was planning to leave, and he was crying, telling me he was. I tried months ago telling him I miss him and I didn't want this ending, yet the split still remains, and he told me Please move on with your life. Yet with a very heavy heart, I am
When I've tried to move on, I have either met men who meet and then are just looking for a hookup, so I run in the other direction. Or I join an app, and within seconds of getting a message, it turns out they are seeking fun, and see me as their intended fun target.
I am so disheartened, angry at my ex of 3 years that he left me in this position when we had our whole future mapped out, and I loved him a lot. Now I'm 45 and just feel left on the shelf, despite having a good career, and I know I am attractive, and other women I know are in the same position as me.
I don't have an active social life to meet new people, as my friends are married and I meet them for coffee or at theirs for catch-ups. Everything else I do in my life is tied to my kids, and I work as a counsellor with telephone and online sessions.
Myself My children and I are season ticket holders to our local football team, yet I sit next to my kids, and on the other side is a family with children, one of the children sit next to me. I just think is my life alone at 45, and I have a busy life, yet I just miss being part of a relationship and the good morning, I love you darling messages, and I then get angry that I was left in this position. I'm very aware my ex was a dismissive avoidant, and we had a nice relationship, which hasn't helped me deal with him leaving my life, well, as I do think he was stupid doing so, yet I can't make someone stay who needed to leave.
Our ending wasn't horrid as our relationship wasn't even bad; it's just his inner mental health issues why he left and he even said he loved me a lot and couldn't fault me as a partner, as we did have a nice friendship as well as a nice relationship.
Anyone else in this boat where you loved someone who let you down and left you so disappointed, and you just feel you're destined to now be on your own? despite really loving being in a relationship.