I was just wondering how people arrange the pick up/drop off of their children when they go to the other parent?
I have three children 15, 11 and 9 months old. During the holidays we go one week with me one with their dad. Term time is every other weekend with him, the rest with me apart from our eldest who switches more freely, but is more at his due to space. At the moment I am doing all the driving, which equates to two hours at least of driving per day to drop off and then pick up my baby later on. I also do all the lifts for the kids to appointments, friends etc. This is extremely tiring, on top of doing everything solo pretty much including all the nights since birth and my littlest still does not still through the night.
The reason I’m doing all the driving is because I took the family car as it was in my name (he had bad credit) but he continues to pay for it for me as part of our divorce settlement. He is an extremely high earner and I am limited with my work as I have childcare to factor in, but I do work four days a week. When I mentioned this to him in an email he was very unhappy, stated this is an extremely small ask and then went on to list all the ways he’s helping me financially. Me and the kids are currently homeless, having to stay with family till we can secure a private rental. He’s in the family home with all the possessions as it was provided to us through his employer.
Am I in the wrong to expect him to eventually buy a car and help with this? He has really bad credit, but does earn a lot of money and seems to have money to go on holiday with his new partner and to complete redesign the house, go away every other weekend etc. How can I approach this conversation with him without upsetting him again?