Asking my baby’s dad for child maintenance for the first time after being born

[Georgia0810]

Does anyone have any advice on how to tell my baby’s dad that he’s just been born and to find out from him if he’s willing to support us financially? He cut us both out his life completely out of the blue a few weeks ago. (I’ve now found out the reason was because he’s been seeing someone else for the past 5 months).
Also baby isn’t here yet, I am still pregnant, he’s due in 4 weeks and just trying to prepare myself! I’ve felt hopeless, confused, absolutely broken and so depressed over the past few weeks not knowing how I’ll ever get through it and I don’t think he’ll even reply, but just so I know in myself I’ve done what I can to let him know he’s been born and I would like to know if he’s going to contribute financially to look after him and how to approach it in 1 message.
Thank you x

Go through CMS.

Be careful about putting him down on BC.

Id be tempted to just let him go and have nothing to do with him.

I was going to say start an application with CMS but not putting him on birth certificate and raising your DC yourself is the least stressful solution long term.

The birth certificate and cms are not connected .

you can tell him after baby is born but the cms is the easiest way to get a claim in .

He has to be present to be on bc . But if he has no interest in been involved then avoid that part but your baby is entitled to maintenance from him .

I think you need to let him go. In the kindest possible way. ‘How’ you tell him or what you say will not make any difference.

I know it’s easier said than done- but it’s time to think about you, your future, your baby!!

Go through CMS and be strong, you don’t need him xx