Do you tell you ex when you go away?

[autumngirl714]

Just the above question really.
if you’re taking children away overnight in the Uk, would you tell their dad?

my values say yes because I would like to be treated the same.
but my experience says no because we never tells me ANYTHING about their time with him. He didn’t even tell me when his girlfriend moved in with them. So why should he know everything I do?

j know it’s not a massive deal… but what does everyone else do?

hey. It is a big deal its your life, your babies. I would honestly treat them as they do you. If the respect isn’t there when he has the kids go live your life happily. I used to be too respectful to my kids dad. Over inform to keep him involved after many years of similar things to what you’re talking about I just thought why am I doing that when he doesn’t and not only that disrespects me and my children. They get a shock when you start setting boundaries that suit you and not them. realistically though, it’s your life. Your choice.
good luck xx

Legally, if both parents have parental responsibility, it’s best to inform the other—especially for overnight trips. Morally, it depends on the relationship. If you value open communication, telling him maintains your standards, even if he doesn’t do the same. Many parents choose to share basic info for the kids’ sake, not the ex’s.