Father taking kids overnight

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Hello,

My children’s dad is starting a new Mon to Fri job within a few weeks.

His overnight visits are currently determined by his shift work.

I don’t want the kids away every weekend as we do things as a family but trying to strike a balance with more of a routine if anyone could give me an idea on what works best for your family?

They currently stay 1-2 nights per week if that helps. Both are older primary aged, 7 & 11.

My son goes to his dad’s every other Saturday night.
could you do every other weekend then a midweek stop over the next week- say Tuesday and Wednesday- then he can drop them to school?

Why does he have so little nights. 3 or 4 would make more sense. I know people who take every other weekend. Two week days set for each and one day swaps week by week

why not 50/50 ?

How far away is Dad’s from school? If close enough no reason why not eow and a midweek .

I absolutely would not offer every weekend .you need some quality time with them too .

EOW and one night in the week is a good balance for both parents and the children.

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I feel for kids who have to split their time between homes to suit their parents’ needs. Much better if they stay put but the parents move back and forth.

It's not possible for most people to keep the kids in one place and have there kids move

Yes the one night during week and EOW suits us both well. Maybe one night at weekend, every week a midday week and then one full weekend a month? For him I mean? We don’t agree on 50/50 as the kids much prefer to be at home but he can do school runs. Just trying to work it out best for everyone but mainly the kids :) thank you all!

How on earth would that work in reality. Both parents are supposed to never move on with their lives and live in limbo for 18 years? Both paying two lots of rent/mortgage payments?

As long as your DC are happy. EOW and a weekday overnight stays. What about school holidays? Especially summer