How long to wait before introducting new man to the DS's............

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only been seeing him 2 weeks, so I know it's still too soon, but he wants to meet them (or should I say he wants to spend the afternoon playing on the PS2 with them PMSL) and I really don't know how long I should leave it.

DS1 knows that I had a friend who's male over on Friday night and that we drank wine and ate pizza (and he stayed until 6am in the morning - although DS1 doesn't know that bit).

Obviously I don't want to introduce them too soon only for them to get attached to him and then everything go tits up. On the other hand I don't want to leave it too long either

Advice please........

I often have severe sleep deprivation at the weekends too!!

oh - not just the weekends - which ever day of the week he's been coming over to see me LOL.

Mine is only weekends because he works a late shift all week!!

Sounds like you are getting on pretty well.

well he usually finishes around 9pm - gets back around 10.......but I'm not complaining LOL.

Mine starts around 8.30pm, and finishes at around 3am (although sometimes later), so way past my bedtime!

Does your new man have children of his own, FAQ?

ahh yes - I can see that would be a little late for a visit LOL.

No doesn't have any children of his own.

Dp met my boys after about 2 weeks totally by accident. I meant to kick him out but we fell asleep and when the kids came into my room in the morning we were still in bed asleep! They were fine tho and just saw him as mommys friend as i had female friends stay over alot. It felt right and turned out to be less stressful than a pre arranged meeting and at least i knew the boys liked him before i got to attached. Ideally i'd have waited a few months but oh well :-)

lol you mean like this morning when we suddenly realised it was just gone 7 and the boys could have appeared downstairs at any second LOL.

Thankfully managed to call his cab and sneak him out with 15 minutes to spare before they came downstairs

My man doesn't have children of his own either. He has a very chilled lifestyle with just a little westie dog to worry about, so half the reason I have been so careful with the introduction of my boys, is that I worry the reality of my monsters will scare him right off!!

I know what you mean, he's paid off his mortgage on his house so he spends all his spare cash on holidays, Brazil, Australia, American, Alaskan Cruise next year etc etc...I told him I had 3 kids almost as soon as we started talking and he wasn't bothered.......

and last night we were interrupted by DS3 at about 3am and I had to go up and give him milk - he was still here until 7 (and he didn't want to go and I didn't really want him to go LOL) so that didn't put him off too much (well it can't have done - he's only gone and bought his dad's 2yr old top of the range computer with printer, scanner, webcam etc etc for ME!!!!!! - as mine is old and dying) !

Wow, excellent! He sure sounds keen!

My man goes on lots of holidays too. His parents have a home in the French Alps, so he goes skiing a couple of times a year, and often has a holiday somewhere hot at some point of the year.

He was married for 10 years, but his wife was very career driven, so they never had children.

Like you, I told him about my children right away, and he has always said it isn't an issue for him.
He has 4 nephews, so is quite used to children though.

My dp doesn't have kids either. Actually i'm his first proper relationship (hes 27 ) we've been together 18 months now and hes stayed here every night for months but today he moved his stuff in. Not sure how i feel about it tbh its what i wanted but its still a big step. Hes always lived with his parents until now. Scary. I never thought anyone would ever want a 25 year old divorcee with 2 kids but guess i was wrong :-)

If yo u own the place don't let him move in until you've a written agreement drawn up by a solicitor to protect yourself and your children.

ooo good grief Xenia - have no plans for him to move in!!!!

it makes no difference, follow your heart. I waited and was cautious, still got fucked over. I would have a one night stand now and it not be any different.

I would just advise that you keep the children happy and don;t take any of the upset out on them