Feel like a failure

[failedatlifee]

Does anyone else feel like a complete failure as a parent? Everyone seems to breeze through single parenting saying how easy it is but i literally struggle to cope. Seriously my house is a top and i clean every day but can’t keep on top of it, my garden is a mess so kids can’t play out and can’t afford a gardener, i struggle to get the kids to school on time every day (they have sen and don’t sleep till late.) The school constantly on at me threatening me with fines.

Someone told me i was lucky to have them full time as i can do fun stuff with them every weekend whereas theirs go to their exes eow, erm by the time the weekend comes i’m literally exhausted i have nothing left to give and no energy, we are lucky if we even go to the shop on the weekend and i don’t have the money to take them out for fun stuff every weekend (ex pays no maintenance.) Never mind the fact i’m exhausted. How does everyone else seem to cope so easily?

Didn’t want to read this and not comment- I’m a lone parent too and felt very much as you do. I think we’re programmed to have guilt, no matter how well or badly we’re doing. It’s seriously difficult to do the job of two people, and potentially their extended network too- I bet you didn’t go in to the relationship thinking it would be like this?!! You are doing as well as you can under difficult circumstances. Focus on one thing at a time and try and do it well- like the late coming at school. I’m sure you’ll get lots of practical tips but I just wanted to remind you that in addition to being a mum, you’re doing the job of a village and not just that of your ex. Give yourself a break- one human can only do so much.

thank you, honestly i’m not cut out for parenting and all these kids do is create mess and make life 100x times harder, the house is a tip and i would love to have a weekend alone to just sort it all.

Is there anyone that could have them? Do you have family that could help? Or could you invite some round to help you even if the kids are in? I’ve done that for a few friends before.

unfortunately there is no one