Child support

[VenusJupiter]

First of all I want to thank all of the MN users who have helped me over the last few days.
Sending love and blessings.

I'm planning to leave my ex who is mentally and emotionally abusive ( has been physical at times).
Once I have moved I will be getting police involvement if he continues.
He says if I leave he will refuse to pay child support.
Can I apply to the CMS?
He is on the birth certificate.
We are not married.

Yes.
If you can’t come to an agreement privately, you go down the CMS road.
If he is on the birth certificate, he has parental responsibility and is financial responsible for the child just as much as you are.

I will be logging a complaint with the police when I am safe at my new destination. My feeling is he will keep her amd not return her at a time agreed just to cause me anxiety ( he's a master manipulator)
I will go down the CMS Road, but my feeling is he is purposely becoming a full time student to avoid his duties .

I would also highly recommend consulting a solicitor and get the ball rolling for a contact order. Particularly if you’re worried he wouldn’t return your child to you.
The court will take everything into account, including any police reports/investigations. I’d also suggest starting to keep a record of any contact you have with him - text messages, phone calls, social media etc.
All will be helpful in family court.

Don't discuss money any longer with him OP. Open a case today with CMS it can take a while to get things moving. Do you have a rough idea of his salary? A company? He also could go "self employed". A lot of men faff around and don't really want to pay so just pay him no mind.

Thank you for getting back. I don't know national insurance number. I know place of employment. He works two jobs and only know name of one. Yes I'm gonna open a case then. He does not want to pay at all. I'm guessing in the future he will try to go self employed to escape it. He even is planning to be a full time student even though he is educated up to post grad level.

I'm guessing there will be a change of career...

Thank you for your advice 🙏

You don't need a national insurance. Get the ball rolling I can't remember what details I gave exactly when I first opened my case with CMS. I know I gave exs name, address, DOB and work company. That should be enough for them to do a search OP. Goodluck.

Sorry just saw this. Went to WA today and have a legal appointment first week of August . I have registered dd at medical practice near to where I'm going. Because of this whole passport saga I'm not ever handing her over without anything in place. Told WA about all the abuse , they did a risk assessment and it came out at medium level.

Sadly it's come to this because he will not give me the passport. Wants to have the power and control of that completely or worse put her to his family back home. No chance .

He is the biggest gaslighter psychological manipulator and financially abusive too. Was damned that I applied for the child benefit . Wanted it in his name and with it going to my bank account. Must think I was born yesterday. Reason he wants 50 50 agreement between us is because he doesn't want to pay child support or pay legal fees if he needs to fight for access.

Also if he can't control me during his so called agreement , I guess to hurt me he will send child or take her even on holiday to taunt me. Complete narc.

I will not be under his control the minute I leave here. No chance.

Who shouts at a 3 month nearly 4 month old and says " I need to train my child!" ???????