we have a a date arranged, he is still going on the dating site.... why does that make me feel rejected???

[chocolatespiders]

FGS i know i have been single for 3 years but this is silly.....

you aren't being rejected...if its goes well with you two he wont go on the site...you know that!
When is your date?

maybe he is just keeping his options open if you have not been on a first date yet. if it works out then he should stop but if he carries on then i think you should walk away, hope not being too harsh.

Which site ?

Can't advise, as clueless about all this.

How do you know he's still on the site -unless you're still going on there too?

don't be silly

mumsnet famous POF site

i havent been on there ever since we started chatting 3 weeks ago...(accept on my other name to see if he has been on !!!

I have been on there a while and chatted to a few different people but never felt i wanted to meet them... but him i do....

I just feel he may be chatting to other people.... but obviously he is free to do so...

I know it is pathetic and i just need to be told so by you lovely lot

I would tentatively suggest that you need to not take it all quite so seriously, or you will get terribly hurt. You haven't even met the guy yet.

thanks for bringing me back down to earth....

Feel for get you, though. It is very easy to get your hopes up. Speaking as single for 4 years and counting... [wry smile]

(There was a rogue 'get' in that first sentence!)

snaf you are exactly right i have got my hopes up with all of this even though i quite like being single i have got to the stage where it would maybe nice to have a man in my life.... but i am not desperate and i guess i am a bit shocked at how this has made me feel....

I appreciate your honesty. thankyou

CS, one of dp's friends had a date the other week from a web site. I know this is different, but it is kind of a bit similar.

The morning after their first date, the lady texted him and said, "if you're serious about me, I'm going to take myself off the website".

Now, I hope you know that I try to be kind, and I am a lady so I know how we think, but from an outsider's point of view I was like "woah! Not so fast lady, for your own sake". And dp's friend was saying, "cor, that's a bit soon". It did make him back off.

Keep repeating this to yourself "poor sap. He doesn't know how close he is to getting knocked off his feet. Let him enjoy his last few days of freedom" - til you feel better about yourself and less worried about him. If you believe you are fabulous, you are fabulous. Trust me! ((()))

thanks littlewomen... that has made me smile on this horrid horrid day

you are right of course....

thankyou for the advice......

when is the date or have you had it yet ?

I don't think anyone would take their profile off just cause they have a date arranged, but, if you do start seeing him and a couple of months down the line he is still fishing then thats a different story, relax and enjoy the male attention