Ex being difficult…

[BoyMom1]

Me and my ex split 3 months ago. We have a three year old. About a month after we split we decided it was time for him to ditch the dummy as we’d been speaking about it since Christmas. Made it fun for him etc and after a couple of days of hell he accepted it and we’ve been fine since.
Recently my son has been asking for his dummy again. I have stuck to it but he says (not that you can always trust a 3 year old or so I thought) that he has a dummy while with my ex. He goes to his Dads alternate weekends and one night a week. Last time I dropped him off there I noticed sitting on the side in plain sight…was a dummy! I was met with I don’t know why it’s there, don’t worry he’s not having it but now I’m concerned my ex is giving him a dummy when he has our son. I have no idea how to approach the situation but I don’t think it’s fair as it’s just going to be confusing our little one. Help
please!

He's gone through alot and if he's anything like my 3yr old Mum is always the comforter so maybe he does have it when he's with his Dad because you aren't there together....I'd not expect too many changes all at once.....you are all adjusting and if he is wanting you then his Dad will be doing what it takes to settle him, my kids struggle to settle for anyone else and we live together

Let the poor boy have his dummy. He’s just had the biggest change in his life (mummy and daddy spilling up and presuming you’re now in separate homes) and he’s going have so much confusion and change in his little life. Let him have a little comfort. Maybe he doesn’t settle there at bedtime as it’s all different for him. Try again when he’s settled and got used to the new way of living. He doesn’t have to have it at your house. It won’t confuse him if he only has it there.

Jesus wept, probably not the best time to give up their comfort. Think about it

Give the kid his dummy back.
yes he’s getting to old for it but he has been through so much recently. It’s a terrible time to be making other changes.

While it utterly sucks and you can try to parent as a team as long as your child is safe its his house his rules same as at yours, not the easiest part of co parenting but a realistic one