Anyone else feel anxious about their health?

[Lavender14]

Just wondering if this is just me or if its normal, but since having ds (coming 3) I always was a bit more aware of my health and fitness and wanting to be fit and active and alive for him growing up, but now his dad is no longer involved at all, that's majorly stepped up for me and it's something I feel very anxious about.

I'm overweight and when I had ds I lost a lot of my fitness as I was so ill during pregnancy and then put on weight quickly again after ds was born. Even though I'm the same weight I was before I got pregnant it took me a long time to regain any level of fitness as I was on bedrest for many months and then recovery from birth was tough. I make a point of going to the gym and my job is active but I'm aware i could be better. But now if I have a takeaway in the week I feel extremely anxious after and really guilty that if I don't get really fit and healthy I could die young and then what would happen to ds.

I know logically to a big extent this is out of my hands outside of eating well and exercising but I really don't think the anxiety I feel is normal - did anyone else experience this? I'm going for regular counselling and it's something I'm actively working on but just wondered if others have been through it?

Would having a plan for DS, if the worst were to happen, help ease your mind a bit?
We have a situation in the family where we have an aging single mum with an adult child who cannot live alone due to SEN. The father, who has no contact with him, doesn’t want anything to do with it, so she has had to make alternative arrangements.

I have made plans for my sister to take him and that felt okay, but now she's talking about having another baby which tbh I really don't think she can afford as she's struggling already and that's making me really question whether or not it's the best option for him. But I have noone else that could take him.

Lavender

Yes me! Well I used to feel that way. 2 x children, no contact with their father, you feel very very responsible for making sure you're healthy and doing your best to live a long time.
I was also over weight, but managed to loose 2 stone this year. I feel a lot more healthier and a lot more in control of our future.

I also have things in place for if anything happens to me. I have a will and have written the kids cards. Personally now I know I've done all I can, I'm content. The rest isn't up to me!!