Arrgh!He's so irritating-reminded me why we split!

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My exh offered to have ds stay overnight at his on Saturday.

He has moved back to his mum's 2 bed house,his brother has one bedroom with a single bed and his mum has the other room while exh kips on their sofa.

The first time ds stayed over,exh's brother came back pissed with his mates in the early hours and ds had a bad night's sleep,leaving me with a stroppy,emotional ds the following day.

The 2nd time,they used his bro's room,both squashing up in single bed.Ds again,hardly slept as he was hot and squashed up against wall while exh slept soundly.

Ds has asd and can be hard work at times but when he's not slept he is angry and emotional and takes his moods out on myself and dd.

I explained to exh that ds didn't sleep well last time and asked if there was a chance of him getting an airbed or something so they don't have to share single bed or sofa-ds is 7 and quite tall-and he said "I'm not going ALL the way into town to get an airbed!"exh lives a short walk from town and walks through it to go to work each day-directly past Argos!

I appreciated the offer to see ds but,I didn't think it was too much to ask,having had to kip on lounge floor last night to look after sick dd and avoid any more vomity matresses.

He was a selfish when I was with him,should have known it would be too much 'hassle' for him-only at mum's because he can't be arsed to look after himself.

Once a mummy's boy....

sounds familiar! i've got a 7yr old with asd who goes to stay with his dad[my ex thank god!]he has moved back in with his parents, he would never manage to look after himself. his 39 yr old sister lives there, my ds has to share a room with her when he goes, he always comes back v grumpy, he often wakes up in the night at home and does there but they are to deeply asleep to notice. I've got a 5mth old dd but i'm not handing her over for a long time! she'd probably have to sleep in a drawer or something! At least you are not with him any more so hopefully forget about him as much as you can, not easy always! My ex doesn't like having him stay over much because he can't have a lie in, never mind the fact that i am up at 5.30 every am, i could go on and on....

Is there any way you could afford an airbed? At least that way you will know you have done all you can, and don't have to put up with the nonsense from him about going 'all the way into town'.

Course, he may not be arsed to blow it up - what with having to breath in and out to do it, and all sorts .

Too right about the blowing it up!When he lived at home before he used to grumble about a big box in the bedroom that he had to step over-turned out to be a flat-pack wardrobe that his mum had got him-never occurred to him to assemble the blooming thing!

I ahould have known what I was letting myself in for but love is blind and I thought he'd grow up at some point-completely wrong!

His mum is also a bit odd about having things in her house so even if I went and got airbed,took it to his house,blew it up,I'd then probably have to get it back,take it down again etc after ds had finished and I'm not dragging dd round there and doing all that-had enough of that crap in our marriage!

He doesn't have to live there but he knows that although he does the 'poor me-squashed at my mum's'act,he has cable tv,cleaning and ironing done and his easy life back again,plus his mum won't have the dcs over until she's done her crosswords every other sunday so he doesn't have to commit to much,leaving his social life clear.Plus he can't be bothered to look for somewhere else.

Wolfjane, your situation sounds very similar,you're right,I am lucky I'm not with him anymore!