AIBU or just a bit selfish?

[snotbuster]

to feel sad that I haven't heard from a friend (also a lone parent) in over a month - since she met a new bloke?
Really trying to be happy for her, rather than a bit miffed, but it's getting a bit strange now. Have rung a couple of times and sent a text over a week ago - no reply.
She's a very nice person and I'm sure she'd be horrified if she felt she'd upset anyone.
She was my last remaining LP friend in RL and we used to do a lot of things together with our DCs on Sundays etc. Don't want to loose her friendship or end up being cross at her when she does eventually get in touch.
Maybe I'm a bit needy?

YANBU, she should return your calls and reply to your text.

Should say that we don't necessarily contact or meet each other every single week but usually at least a few times a month... And we're both quite busy with work etc.

I'm sorry, but I believe that in the early stages of a relationship everyone has the right to be elated about it and become a bit forgetful about other things.

Give her some time, and space, to get used to the new bloke, I'm sure she will come back full of stories in the near future.

However, please remember that once one gets into a relationship, is that relationship that tends to get some priority over other friends (I have been missing one of my friends who is not as "available" as she used to before she met her new bloke, but I supose it is only natural she now wants to spend more time with him than with me

You're right memyson. I'm feeling a bit 'left on the shelf' generally at the moment, what with this and 3 weddings to attend in the near future. I know that she's a nice person - wondering whether I am!

I'm sure you are, try to see this as an opportunity to meet more people and to get nearer to other friends.

I think its a shame when people do this, its nice to meet a new bloke and all, but your friends were there first and also they are the people who you phone up in tears if it all ends badly!
I don't think your unreasonable to be upset if she hasn't replied to calls and texts, that is rude. maybe she has something else going on though rather than just new man euphoria, v busy at work, family crisis ect ect? hopefully she will get back in touch with you soon and all will become clear.

snotbuster sounds like she has a new man so has dropped you, even if she was wrapped up in a new relationship she wouldn't be with him 24/7 so she would have time to ring or text you, I also think its rude when people do that and I have had that done to me, just leave her be and look to meet new friends

I feel a bit pathetic for having posted this now - but didn't want to say it out loud in RL! I do have other friends (honest) but as we're both LPs we used to spend a lot of Sundays together with the DCs and all went away together a few times last summer too. Bit sad that this seems to have come to an abrupt end. Oh well, maybe will be my turn to be swept off my feet next

definately your turn next snotbuster

bless you tinkerbel...

You're not being unreasonable at all. Totally rude IMO to not reply to texts or calls. It takes 1 minute to send a text.

I can totally understand she may be all loved-up and new relationships often make people forget their friends in the early stages.

But there is a difference between that, and just being plain rude!

Weekends can be a lonely time for LPs and if you used to do things together then it's completely natural you'll be a bit upset at this sudden change.

I hope she can redeem herself before it's too late. Even just a simple text or call to say she's sorry, very busy, seeing lots of New Man etc. At least then you'd know and be able to understand. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.